My thirteen year old daughter is out of control! Advice please!?

Question

My oldest daughter is 13.5 and she used to be such a sweetie but now she is acting like a juvenile delinquent.

I keep catching her listening to that filthy song 'I kissed a girl'. I warned Llewellyn not to bring evil into my house yet she still defies me after multiple warnings and spankings.

Another time Llewellyn returned from the mall with a group of friends and she had a bag from hot topic!! She knows darn well that I don't want her setting a foot in that demonic store. I promptly burned the bag and whatever was inside of it. Now she is not allowed to go to the mall ever again without me or her father.

I give her some freedom and this kid abuses it and turns into a gothic L*****n.

I would try to help Llewelyn rid the demons from her life but I have 4 other kids and I really don't know how to handle her anymore. I feel like she is slowly becoming possessed. How else did my beautiful little girl end up like this?

Should I send her away to a girl's home? or what?

Answer 1

d**n lady you have serious issues no offence.

but wouldnt you want your kid to be happy? that store has nothing to do with "demons"

if shes lez or bi you should support her and i love that song and im 100% straight its just a song.

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Answer 2

im a teen and sometimes i feel like you do.

i dont wanna feel crazy or anything but its hard to shop in hot topic with the music that plays in the background lol.

but she sounds like a normal teen to me. she's not bad.

to her its all fun.

but it sounds like you're worried about her from a religious standpoint. try talking to her.

calmly though.

and be understanding.

Answer 3

why dont you talk to her honeslty certain clothes dont make you gothic like i went on the store online this shirt has nothing to do with gothic its actaully kind of pretty aand yes i know i never shop at that store because it dosent look right its all like pitch black but stop accusing your daughter of stuff

http://www.hottopic.com/hottopic/store/p...

Answer 4

Are you crazy???your 13 yr old sounds like a goody goody. hot topic is NOT a demonic store! she probably bought like a t-shirt of her favorite band- (usually what a buy)and the i kissed a girl song- is not a L*****n song- its just really a popular song nowaday's. your are WAY to controlling. you need counseling. juvenile delinquent's do drugs,steal,cheat and lie. your daughter hasn't done any of those things. and since when are songs EVIL???lol

Answer 5

So sad that I can't tell if this is troll or not.  I am leaning towards you NOT being a troll.  The only way you can help your daughter is to get her out of your household and away from the rest of you crazy ridiculous people, she may possibly have a chance of growing up decent and wonderful.  With you as parents however her struggle will be exponentially harder then others.

Answer 6

You aren't letting that little princess grow up. It's a song will it really hurt her and you can't protect her from from the truth. Let her shop aslong as the clothes aren't things like see through langera and it's clothes or a bra or something let her get it. Just let up.

Answer 7

I think she needs prayer and maybe a little one on one attention with mom.  At this age she could be acting up to just get your attention.  Kids don't care if its good or bad they just want attention from their parents.  As far as being possessed it doesn't sound actually possessed but being misled.  Do you go to church? Does she have a youth minister?  God Bless!

Answer 8

haha well i think everyone at that age listens to that song its not a big deal at al hahahaha

but yeah a lot of girls get like that around that age.... just make sure they will still talk to you and whatnot.... they grow out of it

Answer 9

You're crossing the line to a control freak from an over-concerned parent. Lots of girls listen to I Kissed A Girl; that does NOT mean that they're lesbians. Hot topic is NOT Satanic store! Besides, spanking is wrong. It's basically the same thing as punching someone. You should just try to relax. She seems like a completely normal, nice girl, and I've seen and met much worse. At least she doesn't listen to the song Lollipop by Lil Wayne.

Answer 10

She is not turning into a juvenile delinquent, you are just over protective and too controlling. You have not said one thing that makes her a bad or demon child.Sorry honey the problem is you not your daughter!

Answer 11

Either you're a troll or really stupid. Send yourself to a home.

Answer 12

what on earth is wrong with you!!! shes growing up doing normal things that teenage girls do newsflash love your princess is fine its you that needs help talking about sending her away? WTF shes your baby and you should love her no matter what! its not the devil taking her over its hormones!!!! the more you restrict her the more she'll resent you its obvious you are a very religeous person and you faith in god should be enough to help you realise that she'll be fine.

Answer 13

shes just being a teenager, just because she listens to a certain song or buys a bag doesnt make her a delinquint, youre being out of control with the extreme punishment, now if she drinks or does drugs or something like that is when you send her to a girls home, not something like that.

Answer 14

please send her away to a girls home she would love it. give her a freaking break.... your way to controlled aka wtf?!?

you spanked her that's worse then hot topic think what would Jesus do... spank a 13 year old that sounds perverted. sick...

please loosen up please.

Answer 15

Call the Maury Show, or her into counseling.

Answer 16

im a very strong christian teen and i think you are going WAYYYYYY overboard! youre like the mom on steven kings' carrie! just because she listens to a certain song or shops at a certain place doesnt make her a gothic L*****n. let that girl find herself and let her LIVE!!!

Answer 17

oh my god lets all run away she listens to i kissed a girl and she goes to hott topic. its the end of the world..

my god lady get urself some help..

there is nothing wrong with any of the things she is doing

she is not possessed its called self expression

Answer 18

Lady, a few words, You Are Crazy!!!!!! Give the kid some freedom, Hot topic is a good store, you may find some strange things there but its not a "demonic" store. That song is just a friggen song. It has no meaning to the real world, maybe to your crazy, make believe world, but not on planet earth. Get a life.

Answer 19

hot topic sells jewlery and stuff like that. they also sell really cute shirts. you are being unfair if you are being forreal. the song is just a song.  she isnt even doing anything wrong but being a teen. she will push u out of her life faster than u know it and it will be your fault

Answer 20

first of all, GOTH IS A STAGE.

so let her live.

& THAT SONG IS POPULAR RIGHT NOW.

let her be a teenaqer.

GOTHIC L*****n [?]

wtf, youhr callinq youhr dauqhter that, qo to a mental institution.

& if shes a L*****n

-whatever.

Should I send her away to a girl's home? or what?

SHES YOUHR DAUGHTER.

YOUHR BLOOD.

JUST LET HER LIVE.

LET HER BE WITH HER FRIENDS.

GET INVOLVED BUT DONT "SPANK" HER.

Answer 21

She's not out of control. You just dont want your little girl to grow up. You are being waaaaay to overprotective. Things like this happen. If you love your daughter, you will respect her, no matter what "label type" she turns out to be.

Answer 22

You might as well lock your daughter in a freaking cage ..................... or maybe the other way a round cause your crazy :{

Answer 23

sorry to say but wats wrong with hot topic? i personaly dont shop there but its just a normol store. and the song is nomral too its on the radio and theres nothing wrong with it. im soory i think this is stupid

Answer 24

shut the fudge up

Answer 25

Look, i'm 15 and ever since my friends and I turned 13/14 i've noticed soo often that my friends with strict parents always pushed the limits and broke the rules. Now i'm not saying you should let her do whatever you want but you should maybe ease up on her a bit. And spanking is NOT the way to go. You're lucky that i'm not your child.

I also think you should look at the situation a bit more realisticly and not so much about God and possessing.

Answer 26

WOAHHH buddy. slow down.  shes 13.  she should have some freedom.  hot topic isnt THAT bad.  My mom lets me shop there, for their graphic tees and accessories. Just because shes listening to the song does not mean that she is L*****n. my mom knows that its just a song and it wont make me change my mind.  you need to CHILL!  shes not the crazy one you are. send yourself to a girls home.  I will report this idiotic question troll.

Answer 27

OMG! give her some slack! that song I kissed a girl is a FAKE SONG. SHE WOULDNT EVEN DO THAT. HOt tpoic is not a gothic store. It has some cute shirts and to be able to shop there, you dont have to be gothic! I CANT BELIEVE U BURNED THE BAG! you shuld lock yourself in a cage and let her live a normal teenage life.

Answer 28

Your daughter's not out of control, she's being a normal teenager. Just because she listened to that song, doesn't mean that she'll like girls. It COULD just be a good song.

And Hot Topic isn't just a "demonic" store. They hold a lot of non demonic things in there too, there's no reason to overreact.

Don't send her to a home. She'll have no more respect for you.

Answer 29

I'm 14, so I hope I'll be able to help.

If I was her, I would want you to explain why you don't want her doing that kind of stuff.

BTW, just because she does that stuff doesn't mean she's turning into a gothic l***o. I listen to that song, and I definitely don't like girls. My friend shops at Hot Topic sometimes, and she's FAR from gothic. She just likes their earrings.

Answer 30

okay..i know u dont want my idea becuz i guess im kinda like ur daughteri DO like that song i kissed a girl..but its a song!not like she's gonna actually gonna do it!and hot topic is just a store!there's lots of thing for people that aren't emo in there!u no offense, are really dumb...a girls home?she's only 13!calm down she's a teenage girl!you know she cant stay your sweet innocent girl forever right?

Answer 31

WHAAT?!!?

its a song for one..

and hot topic is perfectly normal.

its not "evil" its a store.. that sells clothes

the people there are nice..

wow, are you sure your a mom?