My trashy neighbor's kid is terrorizing my family. Help!?

Question

I've lived in my house for 12 years. Three years ago, this really trashy family moved in with their reject druggie daughter and her son. This kid is like Damien from The Omen. We have a chihuahua who absolutely hates him...and he knows this. He follows us around our whole development while we walk her just to get a rise out of her. He stops on his bike in back of our car while we're pulling out of our driveway, tells us he's going to kill our dog, rings our doorbell 8 times in a row and then runs away (that's my personal favorite). I don't even want to think about what he's going to do to our house/family when he's older. He's 7 now and a complete menace. It's not like we can complain to the parents because they just don't care. My dad's a cop and you know how cops are...you mess with them and they'll kick your ***. He's at the end of his rope and really, I just fear for the future of my family because this kid is only going to get more and more psychotic. The fact that he threatens to kill my dog makes me even more upset.

What should I do? I can't stand this little twirp and I just want to go kick the **** out of him but unless I want to end up in jail, I can't. Advice?

Answer 1

If confronting the parents is not helping, then you should call the police and file a complaint. If that child is threatening you and your family then you should take that seriously. Ever psychopath starts somewhere!

Answer 2

i say trash their yard and give them a hard time, too.

no, actually try to get a restraining order on the family, not just him. since your father's a cop, ask him to help you.  

Answer 3

Make friends with him.  Offer to take him to a baseball game or something he would enjoy.  A child acting that way at that age is either a sign of abuse, mental or psychological problems, or a feeling of neglect and need for attention.  If its the last one, responding to him in a kind and caring manner will bring an end to his behaviour.  If it is one of the first two, a kind response will probably increase his anti-social behavior toward you because he will view it as weakness.  In that case you may want to see what professional resources are available along the line of law enforcement, social services, or church related organizations that could help him.  

Answer 4

Do not do anything physical to a child!  You need to start a log of all instances when this young person is creating problems.  Let the cops know what is going on.  You can use your log of events as evidence to the authorities.

Answer 5

One way to FORCE the mother and grandparents to get involved with this kid is to file a complaint.  Keep doing it until they finally get the "hint".  If the worst happens (which I hope it doesn't!) you could file a restraining order on them.  You could also get child protective services involved with an anonymous complaint made from a pay phone.  Call every social service department you can think of to get involved with this unruly family.  Maybe with some heat on them they will clean up their act and thus control their precious little monster.

We had some horrible neighbors like that too -- and they ended up having 4 precious little monsters.  The entire neighborhood called the police on that family, repeatedly, and they never understood.  Thankfully we were in a position where we could move after putting up with the harassment for 13 years.

Best wishes.

Answer 6

Yikes.  If the kid's parents won't do anything about it then I don't see that you have any options other than to start the legal machine rolling.  Surely as a cop your Dad must have some ideas on what can be done, such as restraining orders or something along those lines - I'm just guessing here.  Bringing the law into the matter will only escalate it into full-blown community warfare, but I don't see any other course of action apart from getting a few people together, dragging this kid into an alley and teaching him a lesson the old-fashioned way...but, of course, that would be wrong.  >:-)

Answer 7

if the kids parents wont do anything, and he is really that big of a problem, then move. Or just deal with it... theres really nothing that you can do except for yelling at him... good luck

Answer 8

well i dont know about that is true about cops because my brother was a cop before and he said that aint no true about if someone else had messed you up or kick your butt off.  but i know that every polices are different and they do something else different then other polices despartments in different states or town. but maybe you can tell your dad about whats is going on and who you having problems with maybe your dad can do something about it or you can call other police officer to come over your house then tell them what your telling us what youre next door neighbor kids been doing and planning to do to you and your family. maybe so they can have someone go there to the kid house and talk to the parents who doesnt know what their kids been doing to you . if that doesnt work then maybe you should move out of the neighborhood or keep your dog inside the house .  

Answer 9

Have you gone to his mother? If you have and nothing has been done then I would talk to her one more time and tell her that if she doesn't control her kid then you are going to call social services on her for neglect.

I just wouldn't leave your dog outside by herself, and if I was you and they are as trashy as you said then I would set up one of those fake camera's so that they think they are being watched when they aren't to stop them from taking it out on your house or family.

Answer 10

Tell the kid to take his d**n meds and get the **** out of your face(Glare at him and use sneers that could make Chuck Norris cry!)

Oh and tell him step by step how you would beat his tiny little butt goodbye if he ever harms your dog.

These are terrible suggestions, but someones got to be the badguy! :)

Answer 11

I think since your dad is a cop he should fail a complaint but if that doesn't work i don't know what you should do.