My twin brother has terminal cancer?

Question

He has been going through chemo since xmas but has a very aggressive strain of cancer so expectedly when he got his results last week it wasnt good, basically 3 to 6 weeks. We are very close but have lived 150 miles apart for 15 years or so.I am going to see him next week and I really dont know what to say to him about it all. Help!

Answer 1

Tell him you love him.  Tell him you are sorry he has to go through all this.  Ask him what he needs from you.  If you are there when he is starting to really go downhill, tell him he has been a good brother, that you love him and that you want him to know it's ok to let go when he feels it's time - tell him he doesn't have any unfinished business here and you will watch out for his family (if he has one).  Tell him not to hang on and linger in the pain for you or anyone else.  You might consider a hospice when he gets really bad.  My friends mom went to one and it was the best thng they could have done for her and the family.

Answer 2

tell him that their everythings goin to be okay and hug him. im sorry to hear that :( hope he fells better

Answer 3

Just being there for support and closeness is wonderful for both you and him, dont ignore his illness, do talk about it, his treatments, his pain, his frustrations etc,  and certainly listen to him offload his worries, offer to help him finish any unfinished business he may have that is worrying him, or he wishes to finalise.

Be honest and do tell him what your feeling and how much you will miss him, you have an unique opportunity to express this. Talk about the good ol days of fun and mischief and his life in general and what you have been up to......If he is tired or angry let him express it......most of all dont pity him.

Answer 4

he`s your brother, he knows how you feel , i have terminal cancer my family just hug me and spend time with me, we talk about old times visit places we visited when we were kids and mostly laugh about the silly things. try to make the time he has left special not miserable. you can`t stop it but you can make the rest of his life special, its the little things that count

Answer 5

well if you are going to see him, try not to talk about the cancer. try to pretend that it doesn't exist. i'm sure  your brother would want you to spend time with him, not with him and the cancer. try to enjoy yourselves. if he feels like talking about it then do so, if it comforts him to know that you understand the situatuion, then just listen to him. but if not, dont bring it up, try to make him feel normal again. let him know that you are always there for him, but try not to get to in depth about it. just try to enjoy yourselves for a bit.

P.S.  i'll be praying for you and your brother.