My two year old son cries all the time; and he wont hardly eat either... What should I do?

Question

He cires all the time.. If he doesnt get something he wants, when i brush his teeth, when I take him out of the bath tub, everything I do he cries about.. I cook dinner evryday and everything i cook he will not eat.. but if he goes to his dad's house he does fine..

Answer 1

start with the obvious- find out exactly his routine and what he eats when he's at dads. kids stress very easily- he needs structure and routine. two is old enough to bribe and compromise: let him try to brush his teeth then finish up, set a timer for bath time then make a game of drying off, make the stuff that upsets him more fun... the food issue is tricky because he's too young to be very picky but try new things by introducing them slowly- and try the nutripals cereal/granola bars- they are a lifesaver around here. The only thing that worked for my son was giving him a choice. ie- brush your teeth now or after your bath, eat the oranges or the applesauce, wear the red shirt or the blue shirt. even at two he made a choice and it really changed my parenting!

Answer 2

Alot of this is "regular" toddler behavior. My son is the same way. BUT you have to keep in mind that divorce or separation is tough for a 2year old to rationalize, It really could just be a control issue. When a child's environment feels out of control, they will do whatever they feel works to restore their control. Also, keep in mind that you really don't know how he acts with his dad. Don't get sucked into the game of, the child is better behaved with me than you, it doesn't do anyone any good. Especially the child. Also keep in mind that you may be extra stressed less patient with his crying so it seems worse than it is. AND kids can pick up on your mood! Hang in there. Try to find things about this stage that you love and enjoy cuz it won't last forever! Good luck!

Answer 3

are you guys divorced, seperated? yo have to think about that? he might feel more comfortable with dad or it might be sumthing that hes doing to brain wash and turn ur kid away from u

Answer 4

His dad may let him get away with more than you do. You have to take his dad's behavior into consideration because if he has less rules than  you do you will be painted as the bad guy.

Answer 5

The child is obviously tramatized about something going on in your home.

Answer 6

I have learned to ask my  2 yo son things whenever possible and tell him things when it isn't. For example, I ask him if he wants to brush his teeth before or after taking a bath. He brushes first and then I help AFTER I ask if I can help. Also, I put only as much water as needed in the tub and try to let him stay in as long as he wants. I ask him if he wants me to wash his hair. If he says no, I say, "OK, then let me watch you wash it so I know you have all the soap out." Usually, he asks for my help. I've taught him to push the water release down and put his toys in the strainer when he is ready to get out. When I hear the release, if I'm not in there, I know to go so I can help him dry off, but I lay out a towel for him so he can be a big boy and start himself. If he doesn't eat, don't worry, he will eventually.

This is the age where they want to do things themselves and as good parents, we have to let them.

I even try to find other ways he can help, such as putting up his own toys, wiping off his highchair when he is finished, anything to make him feel more independent.

You might try it. It really might help.

Answer 7

Sounds like the average two year old to me. He'll grow out of it eventually. I know it's enough to make you crazy, but it will get better.