My two-year old still pees/poops on herself. What am I doing wrong?

Question

She has gone in the toilet sometimes, but most of the time it's in her pull-up. She tells us after the fact, though. My mom says to make her wear underwear and when she uses on herself, don't immediately change her. But, it's messy! Do I have to do this?

Answer 1

Look lots of kids are not potty trained at this age. Just keep working with her she will get it. It is hard but has to be done.

Answer 2

She might be slow to develop. Some kids take longer than others. Some where during year #2 most kids are potty trained. If she's not potty trained by 3 years then you should start to worry.

As quoted: "Most children are well on their way to daytime bowel and bladder training by three years"

You should mention this to your pediatrician to rule out any physical problems.

If she recently turned 2 then I wouldn't worry. If she's going on 3, then you should probably look into this a bit more.

The usual sequence of gaining bowel and bladder control is (1) nighttime bowel control; (2) daytime bowel control; (3) daytime bladder control; (4) nighttime bladder control.

Answer 3

She just might not be ready.

You do not have to potty train her now.  You can wait until she's ready.  If she's not ready, she's not going to master potty training anyway.

Answer 4

Your 2-year-old doesn't need to be potty trained yet (though good for you for starting early!).  Don't worry.  Give it time.  And stop listening to your nagging mother!

Answer 5

Try rewarding her when she does use the potty. Give her a system of stickers (one sticker for every time she uses the potty instead of her Pull Ups). At the end of a week, if she has a certain amount of stickers, she can get a small treat (extra time at the park, a small toy, something she might enjoy). I wouldn't leave her in her messy underpants. That's abusive.

Answer 6

My daughter wasn't even ready to begin training until she was 3. You need to wait until she shows you she is ready, and right now is not that time. http://www.babycenter.com/toddler-potty-...

Answer 7

My son will be 3 in October. At school, he says dry all day except for poo. At home, he's dry most days, except for poo. He's only gone in poo in the potty twice, ever, and that was at home.

I think your mother expects too much. Your daughter will go when it is her time.

My son is in the "Training Class" at school. There are kids up to a year older than him in the class and some of the 3 yos STILL aren't trained. My son's best buddy is 2 weeks older than he is and still won't pee in the potty all the time and HE has an 8 yo brother to help show him what to do.

You might try the underwear thing. Some kids respond better to wet undies (my son didn't, though). HOWEVER, I would NEVER let my son sit in a messed pair of undies. He could get diaper rash. It just isn't sanitary.

My best friend's son responded to the undie thing. She took him to shop for his choice of patterns. When he went poo in a pair, she made him throw them in the trash. It only took a couple of pairs of "Thomas Train" going in the trash to get him more interested in going poo in the potty.

Answer 8

she thinks shes a toilet...

Answer 9

I have a two-year-old brother. He is what you call a 'late bloomer'. He only sits on the potty, but does nothing. He still wets a soils his pants. Chances are your daughter just isn't ready. Also remember, if you are too hard on her, she will soil on herself to anger you. Children at that age do things more if they know it annoys you. All it takes is some love, forgiveness, care, and Patience. Use pull ups. They are easy to get up and down and they are absorbent in case of an accident. Don't get too upset about this. Your daughter just isn't ready to do this. Hope I helped! Good luck!

Answer 10

why are you trying to force her?  all you're going to do is cause her to have some serious anxiety if you push her right now

she'll do it on her own time

Answer 11

she might not be ready. Some kids are ready at that age and some are not. Wait a few weeks and try again. Years ago it seems like ALL kids got potty trained by 2 but now its later for most kids.

Answer 12

If you push your child into potty training, it will only make things worse and probably take longer to train her.  Children train on their own schedule and every child's timing is different.  Any doctor will tell you the same thing.  If you don't feel she's ready, tell your mom to back off.  This is your child, not hers.  Give your daughter time - she is still is young, and will come around and train when she is ready.