My ugly side -LONG STORY?

Question

my bf and i have been together for 5 years...he has always gone out and has had a good time..(hes older)...i was okay with it...but he would never pick up my calls or even call me..there were times that he actually would stay at his friends house with females bcuz he had partied too hard and couldnt go home....

he would go out with his brother and friends...his brother is with a different female everytime i see him..which is like every other week...his friends are the same way...there has been two different times where two different females have aproched me saying my bf has flirted with them and gave them his number..

i've asked him not to do this anymore...we've talked and has left the past in the past...but i turned 21 in March and ever since i really like going out and everytime i go out its with him...this last weekend was my bestfriends 21 bday my bf and i were at her party but he wanted to leave really early and i wanted to stay at the club..

here is my ugly side...i hate doing things for my bf bcuz he never used to do them for me...i hate it when he tells me to not go out and look good when he used to do that to me even when i told him not to do it..i've talked to him about this and i have to him that i want to leave the past in the past but i just cant do that...no matter how hard i try...

what should i do?

Answer 1

Now he knows what it's like.  Although I doubt you are going out and staying at places where the opposite s*x are, and giving out your number.  Tell him you're not going to give up your youth and ability to go out and have a good time.  He had his turn, now it's yours.  It's not about bringing up the past, it's the fact that you are your own person and if you want to go out, you should go out.  As long as you aren't being disloyal to him or the relationship you have a right to go out.  He doesn't need to babysit you if you are going out with your friends.  If he doesn't understand that then he's not very mature.