My uncle is a recovering alcoholic& i just saw him at a liquor store&found a bottle in his car wat should i do

Question

he went to rehab and has been going to AA meetings.. my mom (her brother) is really upset, does anyone know what we could do? we have really tried everything

Answer 1

give up on him, no matter what you do, he'll always gonna find way to get drunk

Answer 2

You can't make someone quit that doesn't want to. Forcing someone to stop doing something can actually make them feel even more helpless and depressed. Hang out with him, give him something fun to do that doesn't involve alcohol, and praise him for a good job. He's less likely to drink that way (even if you know about his sneaky trips to the store).  

Answer 3

That is the tough thing about alcoholism. People are never totally fully recovered, the smallest thing can turn them back to the addiction.

They have to be willing to help themselves. It is one of those things where you can lead the horse to water , but not force him to drink.

Nothing in this world can help him, but himself. I know it's frustrating

The best you can do is to love him and support him. Don't nag him and don't express anger, that is the worst thing you can do for him right now, it will make the matters worse.

I wish you the best of luck. I forgot one thing, maybe you can offer to go with him to AA meetings and offer to take him to dinner or out to a movie or something afterwards. Just offer loving support.

Answer 4

Call for an intervention.  Let him know that you saw him at the liquor store.  Offer your support, especially your Mom, since you don't state how old you are.  Sometimes this is a process, and he may have to go through things before he is really ready.  If you love him, be there for him.  My prayers go out to your family.

Answer 5

tell him you saw him in the liquor store and found the bottle in the car..and ask him if he is still recovering..going to 12 step meeting..pray for him

Answer 6

My brother is also an alcoholic and he has put our family threw pure h***,  I don't think they realise the torment they put the ones that love them through nor do they care. Our family finally realised we couldn't save him - he had to save himself  we stopped giving him money and it may sound harsh but my father kicked him out of his home (he is 33 time he stood on his own anyway) and we stopped running to his rescue every time his drinking got him into trouble. Its sad but sometimes you got to let them hit rock bottom before they will see the h*** they are putting themselves through and decide they deserve better, the one thing I'm sure of is they have to want to help themselves.

I Hope Everything Works Out - God Bless.  

Answer 7

Sara, if your mom knows your uncle's sponsor in AA perhaps she should contact him about her fears.  This person will probably want to talk with your uncle and attempt to see if your fears are well grounded or if there is some other explanation.  Hopefully he hasn't fallen off the wagon and remains sober.  However; if he has had a slip and is back drinking remember that nobody can take away the amount of sobriety that he had and that he will certainly be more than welcomed back to AA if and when he is ready.

Answer 8

Your uncle obviously wasn't ready to give up. Perhaps he felt pressured by other people. Really there isn't much you can do he has to want to give up himself all you can do is be there for him. Good luck

Answer 9

Not much you can do.  And most people don't get sober in AA....this is just another example of "how it works."

Answer 10

In...tervention! Inn...inn..tervention! I...N...TER...VENTION!

C.f. Faith No More's "Be Aggressive". But the sentiment is there.

Answer 11

Call his AA sponsor and tell on him.  

Answer 12

confront him about it and how you all feel. If theres anyway you can, call all alcohol stores and tell them to not sell him alcohol if that is possible.