My virginity dilemma: fellow men, please read?

Question

I'm 19 & have been a virgin by choice. Have had the opportunity to get laid at parties etc.

However i have been wanting to save my virginity for that "special girl" in my life. After all these years though she has yet to come & now i am starting to realize i am losing out on a lot of the fun i could be having as a young guy.

I want to have s*x but i can't bring myself to get laid because i keep wanting to save my virginity, but i know that once i lose it i wont care anymore.

So the question is do i save it and remain sexless or do i go and force myself to lose it so i can begin my sexual life?

PS - i dont want to wait to marriage anymore because no girls i know are virgin anymore so why should i save it for marriage when teh girls didnt save theirs for me?

Answer 1

just go get some mushu...

Answer 2

I wish my husband and myself would have waited.

I really really do.

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Answer 3

Go get laid.  Here's why I say that.  You don't want to have less experience than the girls that you meet.  As girls get older, they have less patience for guys that have no skills.  They don't want to teach a guy.  They want to be taught.

Answer 4

Only do it if the right person comes along.  That doesn't mean she is the one you'll be with forever, but she should be the right person to share that experience with.

Answer 5

May I start by saying congratulations on making it this far.

I believe you should hold on - it mightn't seem like it now, but it REALLY is worth the wait!

You will meet a girl who will be perfect for you, she will take your breath away. I know waiting does get old - but I believe it will be one of your biggest mistakes to throw it all away to have s*x now. Not only the spiritual factor, but also disease etc... and frankly, women who do sleep around - aren't the type you ought to sleep with.

From personal experience, both me and my partner desperately wish we'd waited for one another!

And as he's told me many times, when he did lose his virginity (about age 19) he thought "is this it?" and didn't enjoy it whatsoever, due to the fact he had no spiritual connection with the girl.

He'd never enjoyed s*x, nor slept around due to the fact he couldn't enjoy it with someone he didn't believe was his soul mate.

And I'm the exact same - we both are completely comfortable with one another. Our relationship & s*x life are great, but we still wish that we'd waited.

Believe me, it is a great gift to share with someone you love - a gift that can't be replaced.

And also; there are many girls out there who don't sleep around, who are waiting for the perfect guy as well.

You'll know when the right girl comes along, like I said, she will take your breath away... you will be drawn to her and just know that you want to spend the rest of your life loving and sharing with her.

God bless - there aren't many men out there like you.

Stay strong, fight temptation - the rewards will be astronomical!

Answer 6

id just find a girl that u are friends with and will appreciate the act as much as u will

then from there on just do whoever u want!

Answer 7

Just have s*x when you want. Dont force the situation 'cause you wont enjoy it that way...

Good Luck

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Later!

Answer 8

Only you can make that choice for yourself. I am 21 and saving myself for my husband. I know it can seem discouraging to not be with anyone and wait but it is worth it. Like I said only you can make that choice for yourself. I am not even dating right now by choice. I broke up with my boyfriend and have decided to remain single for a while.  

Answer 9

it's really cool you're saving yourself, it seems youre a gentleman!! in my case, i would appreciate so much having a boyfriend who thinks like you do...the problem isn't you, it's the times were living in when s*x has lost its meaning...you shouldn't force yourself to have s*x because you'll regret it later on...also, the girls you know arent virgins because the majority of them fell in love with a player and ended up broken-hearted...anyways, a woman who truly loves you won't care if you're a virgin or not...

Answer 10

Quite apart from moral and religious considerations, you should keep in mind the danger of infection. If you have a look at

http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relations...

you will see that, while condoms reduce the chances of infection, "this protection is far from 100 per cent".

It is not necessarily true that once you lose your virginity you won't care any more. You might regret it very much. I heard a radio interview with a young woman who said that, when she woke up next to a guy with whom she'd had a one night stand, she wanted to cut her arm off so she could leave immediately. What a horrible mis-use of s*x!

A sensible compromise might be to enjoy petting to o****m when appropriate, and to save intercourse for that special person. That way you have plenty of fun but everyone stays safe. Plenty of girls think like that - you may not have met them yet, but be patient . . . you never know who you might meet . . .

Answer 11

There are girls out there who do save themselves for marriage. They are just not at the party. I thin it is a wonderful thing you are doing. Hard to do but wonderful. I tried to do the same thing years ago but felt funny that all my friends had done it and I was still waiting. I went ahead and did it. I regret it now because I wish I would have saved it for my husband. I hope you wait.  

Answer 12

i am a girl and saving myself.  its depressing to me that i only know one guy that is a virgin still.  i really like the fact that you want to wait:)  it kind of gives me hope.  but at the same time so many ppl now a days lose it before they are 20:(  so our odds of finding one to actually get attached to are low.  

Answer 13

Wow, that is a tough delimma.  If I were you, I would get started on my s*x life.  That doesn't mean you should go and try to sleep with every girl you know, but I wouldn't keep waiting.  If you find yourself disagreeing with my answer, then you have your answer, what you really want

Answer 14

i know your question is directed towards men but ill give you my opinion anyway.. it does seem like there are no virgins left nowadays, but there are. if you have s*x now just for the fun of it, one day you will meet that "special girl" and you'll regret the fact that you didn't wait. i'm 19 and i'm a virgin, and there was a time when i felt like there was no point in waiting since no one else seems to be waiting, but i did wait. eventually i met a guy who's now my boyfriend and he's also a virgin. and even now, we've been dating for two and a half years and we still haven't had s*x. only because we agreed to wait until we're married. that "special girl" is bound to come someday, and when she does, you'll be so glad that you decided to wait. it's not something you can ever take back.