My volleyball coach makes me so nervous i mess up!!! HELP!!!!!!!?

Question

I play volleyball and i dont have a very good coach. She knows what shes doing and everything but she doesnt encourage it seems like she only notices the bad things you do. I really want to be setter but she doesnt encourage or say anything positive that i get really nervous and s***w up. What can I do????? Please help me!!!!

Answer 1

actually listen to what she says, don't just think you're going to s***w up. Get in the mind set that you can do what she says to do. And in a game, I would ignore her.

Answer 2

If you are truely a good volleyball player then you work through the critisism.

I dont know how old you are or what teams youve played on, but highly competitive teams (like college) sometimes seem to only get yelled at, theres only encouragement at games on alot of teams.

You need to be able to almost ignore the harshness of the coach and listen to what they are saying. They are trying to build the best team possible and if youre not goingto make it as setter then youre just not going to make it

As a competitive sports team member you need to be able to take the yelling and harshness, and work through it, If it upsets you, play harder. If it hurts you, play harder.

Get outside training, play on winter leagues, practice outside of the normal practice, until you get the technique down and then go back in and show your coach that you can set.

Most gradeschools have to play you. JV highschool sometimes has to play you. But good varsity teams in highschool and college teams, dont even have to take you, so my best suggestion is, if your better at something else, do that and get training on what you want to do, like setting. But you may just not be the best setter and its something you need to work on and train for to determine.

Answer 3

I know that thing. My ex coach was like that and i know the solution for that problem. I think you will understand what i will tell you and I'm sure it helps.

Look, I know that your coach is looking only the bad things you do and the mistakes. You should be more positive and think that if she sees that you don't make big mistakes and play the best of you. SO, the coach will see that you're giving the best of you, and she won't yell to you. Try not to make so often mistakes and if you do one, try not to be an enormouuusss mistake, ok? This helped me, and i think it will help you too. Good luck!!!

Answer 4

Turn it all around and make it postivie. if that dont work tell yourself you can do it.

Answer 5

i have the same problem. my coach and i dont really go that well together... we both have kinda hot heads. what you do when they talk to you... shake it off or tune them out.

Answer 6

There are lots of coaches like that.  Unfortunately.  They see famous coaches go into rages with their players.  If they coach like that, then they think they should coach like that too.

Since you know that your coach is going to yell at you for every mistake, you should just mentally prepare for that.  Everyone makes mistakes and everyone will get yelled at.  Just try to breathe deeply and relax.  Concentrate on things you can control.  Forget the rest.  (Great slogan-I wish I had made that up.)  Your coach is going to yell at you.  Try to relax and not let it bother you.  (I know it is very easy for me to say and hard for you to do.)  

I have had personal experience with a coach like that.  Fortunately for me, I was cut after 2 days.  I watched the coach yell and scream at the team when I went to the games.  

I also refereed one school that always hired negative coaches.  I would throw the coach out and the team would win.  The coach always thought it was because his team was fired up because those mean referees threw him out.  Wrong.  It was because the team relaxed and they were not afraid to play the ball.  They could concentrate on playing instead of when they were going to get screamed at.

The bottom line is that you should try to ignore the coach when they just rant and rave, but listen to the instructions.

Answer 7

I hav a coach sort of like that :( sorry

Answer 8

I had the same probem in the 8th grade it sucks!!! but i just took the criticism and tried to keep my mind on what i needed to do to help win the game

Answer 9

That is the classic "old school" coaching style.  Yes it sucks, but there is nothing you can do about it.  My advice is to do everything the best you possible can and keep a positive attitude while your at it.  You really only have 3 choices:

1) feel sorry for yourself, keep playing and be miserable

2) Quit

3) Don't worry about what you can't control, and get all the experience possible.  It will be over before you know it.

Answer 10

Print out this question and show it to her. I think that she will have the best answer.

Good luck,

Tony

Answer 11

I play volleyball and my coach is hard on me to just ignore it and if she tells you that u need to improve on something just work on it at home or something its not a big deal And if u r at a game and she still makes u nervous just act like shes finding the bad things in somebody else