My wedding is sept. 19th. my rsvp cards are due aug. 27th. there are still 15 couples that haven't replyed.?

Question

do i do if they don't reply.?? thats 30plates to account for.. should i call them.. help.. thanks.. i know that i still have time but i am being impatient. lol.

Answer 1

Yes, you'll need to call them.  Just ask them (when you get them on the phone or via voicemail) that you need a headcount for your wedding and are wondering if they plan to attend.

If your wedding is Sept. 19th and the RSVPs aren't due until the 27th of August - then wait until the 27th and then call.  

Answer 2

First of all, you should have made your RSVP date August 15 (or earlier).  You really need a thirty day interim period.

You are not the first Bride and Groom that has been faced with this problem, and you will not be the last.  There are some people (wedding guests) who do not return their RSVPs even if they are driven to the post office.  Why?  Because they are waiting for "something better" to come along.  Yes, it's true.  And those people who do not return their RSVPs on time are the ones you should have not invited to your wedding to begin with because your wedding is NOT a priority in their life.

Here's any easy solution . . on the day AFTER they are due back, August 28, you want to call each couple and say to them, firmly and politely, "Are you coming to my wedding, I need to know now . . yes or no."  Now keep in mind they have already had several weeks to reply so you should not accept "I'll have to get back to you" because you are defeting the purpose of making the telephone call.

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Answer 3

yeah you do have time so you only have to be patient a little longer.

but some people you will just not hear back from.

usually everyone sends it back.

but the people that don't send it back you probably shouldn't count on to come.

if they are really close to you and its about the 26th then yeah...maybe you can call but otherwise its whatever.

Answer 4

I would wait until after the 27th to call them. If it is family members, you could even ask your mother to call them so you one less thing to worry about. We got a lot of last minute RSVPs, and alot a few days after the rsvp date, AND we still had to call some.Don't worry, everything will work out! Good luck!

Answer 5

Wait until the 27th, then call.  Only 15 didn't respond?  That is really good.  Usually many more wait until the last minute!

Also you should be able to adjust the number of guests with your caterer up to 1-2 weeks before, so you have plenty of time to call your guests and get a solid number!

Answer 6

give them a courtesy call just in case they forgot. You can say something like "we would like to have the honor of your presence at our wedding and would like to know if you will be able to join us"

Answer 7

Do not call them until after the response date is past.  It could be that they are wanting to come and trying to arrange it into their schedules.  They may have other commitments they are trying to break, trying to find funds to buy new clothes for it, trying to get a sitter!  It could be anything!  I know you are impatient, but putting a date on a response card and then just totally ignoring it and calling before it is really a little over the top.

Wait til the date is past, then call them and say this:

"Hi Mary!  It's Jenny.  I was wondering if you guys got our wedding invitation?  Since we hadn't heard from you we were afraid maybe it got lost in the mail.  Oh, you did get it?  Great!  Are you going to be able to join us?".

That's it!  DO NOT Say anything about the RSVP.  Yes, they may be wrong, but don't make it worse.  

If they try at this point to give you a "maybe" answer, do not stand for it!  Make them give you an answer.  If they can't or won't, then say:

"Well, I guess we'll have to put you down as a "no" then, cause the 27th was really the last day to give the caterer a head count & they are being lenient with us as it is!  Sorry we won't see you there!".

Answer 8

My Sister used a service called myrsvplive.com to collect her RSVPs over the phone. They gave her a private line for her event and it automatically collected the guest’s response. The service was able to call guests that had not replied and ask them for their response. I know this is too late for you to use this method but might help some of your readers.

Answer 9

Leave it a few days after the rsvp date, then start calling. Don't leave messages, and don't send emails - get an answer!

Answer 10

Yup, all you have to do is call them and say, "Hey so and so, how are you? I was wondering if you're going to be able to make it to the big day?" And they'll most likely say, "Oh yes, I'm sorry I didn't get the card out in time."  

Answer 11

I hate when they do not respond. If they do not respond by the 29th of August call them (you want to give a couple of extra days because of the mail service). If there are several couples you may want to ask your mom or his mom (depending on whose side of the family it is) to call and ask if they are coming. Also, if they have email accounts check and see if they had emailed their response I had two couples respond that way and if they did not mention it to me I would not have known.

Answer 12

well there's still another week. Call them after Labor Day

Answer 13

My rsvp cards are due the 23, bc my wedding is on the 6 of september and we are waiting for a lot of people too! I think people just wait until the last minute. So give them until the 26 or 27 and then call them and say "I have not received an rsvp from you for our wedding, I was just calling to make sure you received the invitation and I am interested to know if you will be attending so I can pass it on to the caterer."

They will either say "oh yes, I will be attending" or "I'm not going to be able to attend" if they say they cant come, just answer with "oh thats too bad. We will miss your company. But thanks for letting me know!"

Answer 14

Either call them or assume they won't be there (but then if they show up...)

Answer 15

I would wait until the 30th and then give them a call.  Unless of course your final count to the hall is earlier.  You still have a week until you asked for a return.  

Answer 16

Yes just call them.

Answer 17

I would definitely call them. Just say you have yet to receive their rsvp cards, and you need to know due to catering.  

Answer 18

Oh I just went through this myself. Mine were due on the 16th this month. So yesterday I started calling my list and he started calling those on his list who have yet to reply.

You need to wait till at least the cut off date then start calling.

What I found is most of the ones that didn't return the RSVP were not coming. I guess they think it's better not to reply at all than return it with decline marked.

You just need to call and be frank about it.

Just say I have yet to receive your reply and I need to turn counts into the venue. I need to know if you will or will not be coming.

I think the ones that really want to are the ones that send them back in a timely manner. Those that don't usually can't figure out what they want to do so they wait until it is too late.

Just start making calls after the 27th. Good Luck and congrats!

Answer 19

Yes, you should call them. Or have your maid of honor or mom help you call if you don't feel comfortable... like, if you don't know them very well. :)