My wedding is sept 19th. well i just wanted to have 10 peoplE. WELL WHEN BOTH PARENTS GAVE ME THERE LIST IT?

Question

WAS ALREADY AT 100. I DIDNT' INVITE MY COUSINS BECASUE OF THIS. NOW WITH OUR FRIENDS, IT IS 160. MY QUESTION IS. IS IT RUDE TO INVITE AUNTS, UNCLES, FRIENDS, SOME CO-WORKERS THAT EQUAL 160 AND NOT INVITE MY COUSIN. I JUST SENT INVITES OUT THE OTHER FOR OUR FAMILYS AND SOME FRIENDS, SHOULD I JUST WAITE AND SEE HOW MANY RSVP I GET BACK.. IS IT RUDE NOT TO INVITE MY COUSINS. OR SHOULD I JUST INVITE MY COUSINS THAN FRIENDS ( BUT IM CLOSER TO MY FIRENDS. HELp

Answer 1

I assume you meant 100 people.

Hopefully  not everyone will come and you can send out B-list invitations.  If you are not close to your cousins, you do not have to invite them.  However remember that 10 years from now they will still be your cousins but your friends may not still be your friends.  If it will cause major drama in your family then bite the bullet and invite them... its not worth having a family feud break out because you wanted your happy-hour friend there instead.

Answer 2

just elope!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

have a family get together and a friends get together later

Answer 3

Who is paying for the wedding? If your parents are then they will want family to come. I would just allow them to invite whomever they want. They just want to make this a special day for you.

Answer 4

My wedding was held with the Singapore Hokkien Huey Kuen. It was a mass wedding with only 6 newly-wed couples,(me and my hubby was one of them) and the rest of the 30 over couples were couples there to renew their wedding vows. Since it was a large congregation, Singapore Hokkien Huey Kuen limited us to invite 20 people for each couple, meaning me and my hubby can only invite 10 people each. So we included our family members (total 17 only) . We did not invite any distant relatives at all, neither did we invite any old school friends or collegues. But we both think the arrangement was ok.

Thumbs up for Singapore Hokkien Huey Kuen!

Answer 5

i would go ahead and invite them and just cut cost else where if that is the problem... or another idea is not to and just have a party or something for just them ( your cousins)

Answer 6

Both sides of my family are fairly large. One grandmother had 5 children, the other had 7. So naturally I've got a lot of aunts, uncles, and cousins. Most of my cousins that have gotten married only invited the aunts and uncles and not the other cousins. I never took offense to this because I understand that weddings are so very expensive and they're not excluding us for any other reason. I think it will be fine if you don't invite them.

Answer 7

If you do not want a big wedding.  You should have just went to an island and got married.  Then mailed out "We Are Married."

With that said,  I'm getting married in my home town and it would be very rude of me not to invite my family.

Answer 8

I would invite my cousin. How would you feel if she didn't invite you to her wedding instead her co-workers? Invite her and let her choose to come or not! If she does not then so be it, if she does say HI and keep it going.

Answer 9

If you are paying for your own wedding, then you can invite whoever you want.

If your parents are paying for the wedding, then they have the right to have a say in who's invited. So if your parents are inviting 100 people and they are paying for the wedding, you should say, "You know, we'd rather pay for the wedding ourselves, so that we can do it exactly the way we want to do it."

Answer 10

I would want both at my wedding.  Since the parents went crazy with the list then I would sit them down and tell them that you are inviting your friends and cousins as well or you could just go back to the original 10 like you planned.

Answer 11

no you have to invite your cousin