My wife cheated and got an STD in the Marine Corp and I'm a Marine too, I want to know how to charge her.?

Question

Here is the story.

I am stationed east coast. She is stationed west coast. We have not seen each other for a year. She had s*x with 4 different people multiple times while we have been stationed apart and she recently told me she got Herpes after feeling so much guilt and pain. She is also getting kicked out of the Marine Corp on BCD because she has now popped for weed, ecstasy, and coke 3 different times now.

Yes, yes I know she is ****** up in the head and I agree. That's why we're getting a divorce. She is in the brig right now for 180 days and wont get out till December but I want to contact her command and try to get her charged with this. I honestly don't care that she got herpes because I know I can still sleep at night knowing I don't have it and don't have to live with all the mess she's put herself through.

I do have proof she cheated and got herpes because she told me for one in a government email and I have multiple text messages saved from her, and also have her own statement, her mom's statement, and if they were to do a STD test for herpes on her and on me, they would find that she has herpes and I do not. And she cannot say she had it before the marriage because we both have been tested since we've been in the Marine Corp.

How do I go about doing this? Contact her Gunny in her shop because I know him or go straight to the Sgt Major even though I'm a Marine too?

Answer 1

Recommend that you forward those e-mails to her commander and request that he/she initiate a commanders inquiry or a 15-6.  They will likely tell you not to waste their time as she is already being chaptered and that e-mail confessions alone are not considered evidence of adultery.  If you have photos or videos of her cheating, this is considered evidence.

Answer 2

Don't think being a bad wife is a criminal offense.  Nor is contracting an STD.  Don't you think she's already busted for enough?  If you're looking for revenge against her, don't.  She's obviously got enough on her plate, that you pressing charges for that wouldn't make a l**k of difference.  Sorry about the divorce though.

Answer 3

I would say the best thing is to just divorce her and move on. Why did she go down this path of destruction? Sleeping with different men while married and getting a disease. That is very rude and disrespectful.

Sorry for your loss, and I would just stay out of it, because she is going to be her own demise.  

Answer 4

contact the AG.

It's against the UCMJ to sleep with someone other than your spouse.

Answer 5

adultery is not chargeable under UCMJ unless in conjunction with additional charges such as Fraternization.   so unless you can provide evidence that the peoiple she slept with here in her direct chain of command or otherwise violated Fraternization regs, you will only come across as bitter and vindictive.  her life is already over..  not much worse than a Big Chicken Dinner.  

Answer 6

you can go to legal and explain to them what happend i dont see the point though who was getting the bah in the relationship if shes getting out there would be no point in doing that cause all they would do is have cid investigate and take rank and pay extra duty etc...... but theres really no point cause shes getting out i would say let it go and have one of your cousins beat that b*****s ***!!

Answer 7

you're angry, of course, but charge her with what?  getting an STD is not a criminal matter, it's a health and social issue.  how about you just move on?  call it a lesson learned.  believe me, divorce and move on is your best option.  semper fi.

Answer 8

Divorce, don't be a douchebag.

**** YOU PRICK!!!!SUPPORTING THE NEW WORLD ORDER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!... YOU'RE GOING TO DIE!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

You can't.

He rcommander is the only one who can charge her under the UCMJ. You can rat her out to her Chain of Command, or you can just break up with her and move on.

  

Answer 10

I'm sorry that I can't answer the part about how to charge her, but I do want to say get far away from her as possible...and believe you me, she has far more to worry about than she knows!

Answer 11

She not only violated Art. 112(a), but adultery is a chargeable offense also.  Although there are no actual article that covers adultery specifically, it follows under the "catch-all" Article 134.  Sound like to me they are issuing her a Bad-Conduct Discharge for drug use.  Likely,  her command will charge her with violation of Art. 134 for conduct of unbecoming of a Marine since she discredited the Corps with no sense of honor or loyalty to spouse.  Marines do no like cheaters amongst our ranks.

I too had a cheating wife.  But she was stationed with the CivDiv, never serving in the military.  I couldn't charge her (sigh!), but I had an outstanding lawyer that pleaded the court that she gets nothing!  No splitting of assets nor any severance!  I found out that she cheated on me because she was ignorant in the first-place, must been born a 'blue baby' or something.  Anyways, since you shared your story publicly, I'll share mine...

After coming back from deployment, we regrouped as any loved ones would.  About 6-months later, she tells me that she contracted an STD and that I may gave it to her.  She always had this assumption that I always cheat on her and would always tell my buddies and my/her families as well.  A huge shocker to my family since we are very religious.  Truth was that I never cheated on her.  Didn't want to, loved her so much that I didn't even glance at other women in a imaginary lustful desire.  My ex is very beautiful to begin with.  Obviously, I wasn't the only one that knew and noticed that!  So, thinking logically I had a heavy heart to know exactly what she had done!  It was impossible for me to give it to her, only solution was that she contracted it on her own.  I got checked anyway because we have been intimate since my return.  I luckily didn't have any form of STD but unfortunately I was contracted with Malaria.  Too bad that I couldn't spread it to her because she deserved Malaria too!

Whenever a woman sobs and cries about their evil doings of adultery, they have to understand that their pathetic excuse "I missed you, I was lonely"-routine just doesn't have any place for common sense. You don't s***w other people when you are lonely!  You stay faithful!   So, she missed me by sleeping around with other guys.  What she do, smear my self-portrait on this other guys face while she was having s*x with him?  And I enjoyed making her cry too, afterwards, and I became very resentful toward her too!  Especially when I told her that she is to wear latex gloves if she ever wanted to lay a finger on me, even bought her a box of latex gloves.  A month later, I dropped 120-lbs. ugly fat, we got divorced.  I'm religious (Judeo-Christian) so divorce is acceptable, mandated by God himself.  Read Deut. 24:1.

NOTE: Anyone who doesn't divorce their wife when she has no favor in her eyes to the man she is married to is following "THE NEW WORLD ORDER"!  Because that is the marking of not abiding God's law in the Torah.

Answer 12

Just let it go and let her go.

Answer 13

Sorry man to hear this- but dont go in with revenge and all. If you don't want to live with her, divorce her & let her live her life.

Answer 14

So you are want to put her through more **** because you want to see her squirm?

Either she has affected you deeply, or you are one sadistic b*****d.

If you truly did not care, then I can see why she cheated, and you wouldn't bother charging her and just get the divorce.

Answer 15

charge her w/ what? cheating?

is that illegal?

Answer 16

Sorry to hear what you are going through.  As long as you were married still while she was doing all of this and you were then yes you should turn everything in for adultery.  I know in the military it is an offense and it should be brought out.  As long as you have all the proof I say go for it.  

Good Luck!!!

Answer 17

You have no right to charge her under Article 134.  That is up to her Commander and the local SJA/ Base Magistrate.  Unless you are an MP, and even then it would be a conflict of interest.

If you have taken the time to read 134, then you also know the elements of the crime in question.  Please understand, contrary to popular belief and urban legends, simply cheating on your spouse (Adultery) by itself is not a crime, even in the military.  It is only a crime IF it meets the following criteria:

(1) That the accused wrongfully had sexual intercourse with a certain person;

(2) That, at the time, the accused or the other person was married to someone else; and

(3) That, under the circumstances, the conduct of the accused was to the prejudice of good order and discipline in the armed forces or was of a nature to bring discredit upon the armed forces.

Number 3 is the spot that normally stops the crime from being prosecuted.  Unless the CC can prove the person in question brought discredit upon the Marine Corp and that act (Adultery) was prejudice to good conduct and order within their military unit, then it doesn't get processed.

EDIT:  Mrsjvb's answer is completely incorrect.  Read Article 134, specifically regarding Adultery and the elements of the crime.  It is not a 'secondary offense' as you have suggested.  Fraternization and  Unprofessional Relationships are seperate offenses and chargeable as such.  While on the subject bear in mind Fraternization and Unprofessional Relationships are also seperate.  Again, read the UCMJ.  I've been in military Law Enforcement for 9 years, and am a LE Flight Chief.

Answer 18

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Your talking about the woman you love and asked to marry you.

How did you end up on opposite coasts?

Were you both in the service when you met?

Did you think she would never get lonely?

Have you been lonely?

1/4 of the entire population has Herpes.

It is not the end of the world.

Learn more about it BAF.com  

Answer 19

As someone already said, only her CO can actually charge her. IF you wish to pursuit this, then what you will need to do is contact the local NCIS office and give them a statement.

From there, they will conduct an investigation and make a formal recommendation to her commanding officer.  

Answer 20

Tell an officer you want to get in contact with a prosecutor.