My wife cheated on me 2yrs ago we got back together but i still dont trust her. Please help?

Question

My wife cheated on me 2yrs ago we got back together but i still dont trust her. Please help?

Answer 1

There is no easy answer to this. You have to leave or it will eat you away. You have not forgiven her and you will feel worse and worse as time goes on. Go now and find happiness, its out there

Answer 2

Once a cheater always a cheater.......sorry.

Answer 3

If you want it to work, you have to forgive her. If you don't forgive her then you will never trust her. Considering the fact that you are asking this question lets me know that you really want to trust and believe her. Continue to talk to her and don't keep bringing up things that happened in the past. Don't argue with her about small things and if their is anything serious enough to argue about then sit her down and talk about it. You can make it work if you really want to. I'm not telling you to forget about it but you don't need to keep bringing things up.

Answer 4

Did you guys get counseling?  Trust is a major issue in marriage, and the lack of it can kill a marriage.  You've also got to forgive her, and if you can't forgive her, you're not going to trust her either.  Ask yourself if she's done anything since to make you believe she's cheating on you again.  Does she have unexplained absences?  Does she hang up the phone suddenly if you enter a room?  Are there signs she's cheating, or is it all in your head?  Only you can answer these questions.  But, if it's all in your head, you need to come to terms that your wife made a mistake, but if you guys still love each other and are willing to forgive each other, then you can make your marriage work.  But, if you hold onto the pain, resentment and don't forgive, then you guys are in trouble.  I wish you both all the best.  

Answer 5

What does she do now, that would evoke your not trusting her? I am suspecting nothing. Declare the past is the past and trust her like you have never trusted before. Risk? yep.

Answer 6

You don't trust her or you are still angry?  

Answer 7

I believe marriages can survive affairs if you really want it, but I'm not they can survive a total lack of trust. Decide if you want to stay with her and take it from there. I doubt if you can forget what she's done, but it would be good if you could forgive her and move on with your lives. The fact that you've asked for help makes me think you want to stay together, and that's a good thing.  

Answer 8

u probably will never trust her again

Answer 9

The only thing you can do is give it time. Be willing to work on the marriage and talk to her about your feelings. You are feeling insecure. Don't be afraid to tell her that. And why. When she tells you that you are safe in the relationship and have nothing to fear, give it time and try to believe her. Eventually, the good will catch up and wash away the bad but it will take time.

  If you are impatient and can't think of it that way, then spend some time in counseling to find out how you can trust yourself to understand your relationship better. You can't do much but you can change the way you feel about what you doing now.  

Answer 10

If you have never truly forgivenher then you may never trust her again unless you firgive her then the burden of mistrust is going to bother you.



Personally I would never have gotten back together with her in the first place if you do not trust someone being with them is foolish mistake.

Think about what would be best maybe both of you starting over with new partners would be a better scenario.

Good Luck and Best Wishes.