My wife found out her fathers name now after 38 yrs from her single mother.?

Question

i searched his name and he lives 15 minutes up the road.I have his phone number and address...my wife always wanted to know if she had brothers and sisters.we not searching for money ..were set.what do you think.call him what do you say or just ring his bell????????

Answer 1

I think this is a bad idea.   If he wanted to find her, he would have.

You have no idea who he is, why they split, if there are an siblings and what they are like.  

I think this can only open a can of worms that will upset all involved.

Answer 2

Maybe you should call, just in case he isn't interested in meeting your wife, it could save her feelings.

Explain who you are and why you're calling.  If he's interested in meeting your daughter, he'll take it from there.

Good luck!!!

Answer 3

Showing up on his doorstep might be extremely shocking and awkward. I suggest calling him. Have your wife explain the situation and ask if she could stop by so they could chat a little more. This is an exciting time, but don't push her dad to talk. He might not want anything to do with her. Good luck!

Answer 4

I would definitely just ring his bell. You have nothing to lose. Phone calls will probably just end up being frustrating.

Answer 5

This is not your decision to make.  My husband expressed his doubts when I contacted my bio mom, but ultimately the choice was mine.

My husband turned out to be right, but we were both satisfied with how it was handled, and that was by me.

Answer 6

Calling is better.  Since he was never told of your mother's existence he may not want to have anything to do with her.   Just because your wife found out who her biological father is doesn't mean he wants to have a relationship with her.  Calling will save everyone the unpleasantness of being told no.  

Answer 7

Definitely don't just show up at the door. You need to call him, introduce yourself, and let him know you only live minutes away and would like to meet him at some point. You need to get people time - that is HUGE news and he may shocked and need time to process this information.

Answer 8

call him or go there both works but if he is surprised and seems upset that you found him give him some time he probably didnt expect it and also tell her not to get her hopes up to much because he may not want her because hes afraid that it might hurt the rest of her family but go for it becaus eif not she will always wonder just be ready for anything

Answer 9

Since he doesn't even know about her it might be nice if you met with him just to let him know what's going on.  Call him and then meet for lunch.  Make sure it's a private call in case he doesn't want his family to know right away...he will need some time to let this all sink in.  He's as innocent in this situation as your wife is.

Answer 10

i would call first :) good luck :)

Answer 11

i would say you call him....let him know easily...because it may be a shock to him...hel may not know she exists...let it go from there...hope things work out for you and your wife