My wife has gond thru the change?

Question

My wife went thru the "change" last year. She has lost all interest in s*x, and when we do, she complains that it hurts. She has been to the Dr. and tried the hormone thearpy thing, but alas, it gives her migrains. We have even tried replens, to help with the vaginial moisture. She says that it helps but it is still painful.

One of the problems is that I am extremely thick (you know where) about the avg. length.

Any suggestions, or should I just depend on myself, and possibly come down with carpel tunnel syndrome?

Answer 1

The issue at hand, it seems to me, is that she is not aroused enough, thus there is no internal lubrication.  

So, how to get her more arouse?  I presume that you would know, to a degree, her sexual fantasies and sexual preferences.  I would suggest you act some of those to get her more excited.  Longer foreplay is probably also necessary.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

Depend on yourself or.  If it causes her pain,  try doing other things that are not intercourse.

Answer 3

Wellllllllllllllll then go aquatic on the woman and trap her when she is taking a shower, plenty of lubricating while is wet.LMAO or find other s*x stimulation's for her. As you age, you want different things and more of what was not there before. Have you tried p**n? or voyeurism? or another man?LMAO or other woman? well you guys will figure it out. The reality of The Change is that you need to make it go away by playing more and harder or you will never recuperate from it. OH oH by the way the body will eventually return to normal,,,,,it will pass.Good luck

Answer 4

I know you are distressed - no small wonder.

I don't think she is "through" menopause.  It often takes several years.

Not having periods does not mean it is over and gone - trust me.

It is very common for a woman to lose all interest in s*x and to have discomfort/pain during intercourse at this time.

Be patient with her and yourself - and "take matters in hand" when you like.  

I can't guarantee anything, but probably in time she will love loving you and being loved by you more than ever.

Answer 5

I am going thru the same thing myself.

Answer 6

Use lubrication and be gentler.  It will help.  Does she have an infection?  If so then s*x will be painful.  Tell her to go to doctor again, explain and have them check.

Answer 7

Well Allen I'm built like you. My wife also has gone through the change although it took much longer. We use K-Y jelly and liquid and do quite well.  

Answer 8

Check and see if she has fibriods.  They feed on the hormones too so if she is running low and the fibroids take some, there will definitely be less.  Not sure how you can improve penetration.  You have done a lot.  I will say keep lubing up and be extra generous.

Answer 9

Carpel tunnel lmfao

What you do is get down there and slobber all over the place before you start give her a 0 before you go in full force.

Add on  Well slobber inside to give her the Gene Simmons treatment lol.

Answer 10

If she is having pain she needs to see her gyno.  There are treatments and other things that they can give her.  It is just a matter of finding the right one.  Hormones are crazy.  And if she is having pain, she definately needs to see her dr.  

Answer 11

Use Your hand.

Don't cheat.

Love her.

And don't try anything with her

Anymore bc then your just going to keep hurting her.