My wife ignores me for her phone and everyone else around us. ?

Question

My wife for the last 6 months or so has steadily started to ignore me for her phone and anyone else around us. Shes either on her phone texting or calling or ignoring me talking to our roommates. Whenever we have a date night or just try to have time to ourselves shes on her phone. We'll be talking and shell just suddenly stop and get on her phone, Or at home we have a new roommate whos male and shes spending more time talking to him then she does me. I work nights and shes normally up when i get home because shes been up all night talking with him. Or shell just not talk to me at all. Yes ive gotten jelous and yes ive hotten angry but anytime i tell her shes ignoring me she just says im pushing her away and that im looking for something to be wrong. I have a few mental disorders but i know this cant all be in my head. Any advise would help. Im at the end of my rope where i fear divorce is the only thing left.

Answer 1

Do some sweet things to her and see if she still acts that way. Women are always complicated. Maybe she is mad at you for something you done and you just know it. If you love her, don't give up on her. Never give up on love.  

Answer 2

You guys have to just compromise, figure out what she likes to talk about or do! that way she'll enjoy it more! and have a talk with her without gettign angry or mad or anything... mayeb you shouldnt have a roomate!

Divorce shoudl only be a VERY VERY last resort  

Answer 3

it seems like her phone has become her comfort zone. You need to talk to her and tell her that she is blocking you out and that you feel disconnected in this relationship because of her actions and that she needs to put more effort in for your marriage to work. Also I don't believe she can be weaned off her cell phone just like that... so I suggest going to a marriage counselor where you both can just let it out and at least try to salvage your marriage and if things don't change or go well at least you know you tried. anyway good luck with this. it wont be easy.

p.s if she isn't taking you seriously maybe text her and let her know you're being dead serious and that if she doesn't start changing or go with you to a marriage counselor that you will have no other choice but to take some time away from her or even worse divorce her.

Answer 4

You should always be able to work things out. It sounds like your wife may be having an emotional affair with some one(room mate?) Tell her when you too are having a date the phone needs to be turned off. When you are spending time together the phone needs to be off too. Evidently she cant control herself. What she is doing is disrespectful and cruel. I don't blame you for feeling that way, my husband was really addicted to his xbox for awhile and I was feeling the same as you are now... I eventually got my way when he came home and found his xbox disassembled and layed out on his side of the bed... Some times you have to be creative...

Answer 5

What is so hard?

Ask her if she wants to remain married and if so, tell her the marriage is not going to work like this. Let her know you're not going to play second fiddle to her phone or your roommate.

Move the out of there, you shouldn't having roomates when your married.

Answer 6

she isnt doing this out of revenge is she? like to get you back for something you started doing to her? i know a situation where that was happening, but the wife was doing it to prove a point...the husband had been kinda doing the same to her earlier. she thought she  would give him a dose of his own medicine...and guess what? it worked!

Answer 7

I went through a phase with my boyfriend of 5 years. I was instant messaging all the time. It was because I wasn't getting enough attention and life was getting super monotonous. I didn't know it then, but I figured it out. Something in your relationship is missing. My boyfriend and I have since moved through this, so it could get better for you. Do things differently. Get her to notice you and make sure you notice her. It is very important you try something because my relationship almost ended over this. Luckily we worked it out and I couldn't be happier, but this could get serious.

Good Luck to you.

Answer 8

ii don't see why if she has only got a phone me on the other hand ii have an excuse when ii ignore people because am always on my sidekick or my blackberry,

but its only because not many people in the U.K have them and ii do yay me!

Answer 9

How long have you been married? Do you have children together? Has there been any history of infidelity? Have you ever lived alone together or have you always had roommates? If you really want to save your marriage get your own place and go to counseling.  

Answer 10

I say what comes around goes around.  Don't wear your heart on your sleeve.  I'd start looking at other options.  Lifes to short.  th

Answer 11

You and your wife don't need a roommate. You need your privacy to talk things over, especially now. If she continues to dodge talking with you, be suspicious, especially since she's on the phone a lot. You can ask her point blank if she wants to stay married. That should get a response.  

Answer 12

You know I completely understand. Know that you are not alone, many of us are having relationship problems. Women are so hard to figure out, you just never know with them. Well, the first thing I would say is find out if she's cheating on you, maybe moving in another man wasn't a great idea - I surely wouldn't have did that. Women sometimes fail to understand that men need attention too, I mean if I love my significant other why wouldn't I look forward to spending exclusive time w/ her? So I've been down the same road, where it seems like you're always 2nd or 3rd priority. All I want is my lady to love me and respect me. Treat me like her king, and I'm willing to treat her like my queen. To be honest and open and of course faithful. I'm sure you've got some insecurities inside of you because of all of this and I don't blame you. As hard as this may be - try this...Try pulling away from her, I know its tough, but I've done it and it's worked. Pull away from her, keep things pretty short and simple. Spend some time with your friends or just on your own. When she starts to realize that she has pushed YOU away then you see how much she appreciates what you bring to the table. Either she will do her part and make her effort to improve things, or maybe she's just not the one and GOD has someone better in store for you. I know trust me I know, I understand the stress and frustration you are going through. Keep your prayers up and believe that GOD will show you the way. Ask for His guidance and trust and believe that everything will come to pass one way or another. Good luck and I'll pray for you.  

Answer 13

Wow, sounds like she is just playing you. Taking your money and ignoring you and bopping the roomie while your at work. You need to wake up dude!

Answer 14

you need to have a heart to  heart with her and tell her how it makes you feel.  and most of all try to understand her feelings.  try to find out what you might be doing that she sees as pushing her away - that's very important!!  it's impacting her a lot.  try to understand that fully before you start telling her how you feel about the phone.  ask her if she's willing to find a time to turn the phone off to talk about this.

Answer 15

Uh don't have a roomate if you are married, live in a smaller place it'd be easier

Answer 16

I'd try talking to her about it and ask her what you can do to help out. See why she's acting that way and always talking on her phone and ignoring you. Take her out one night (to dinner, to see a movie, spend some intimate time together) and tell her to leave her phone at home so there's no distractions.

The best thing to do is to talk it out seriously and don't raise your voice. Remain calm about it and just have a heart-to-heart conversation. If she's not willing to talk about it seriously with you, I'd suggest counseling. It's so early into the marriage I wouldn't want to see you guys just give up and separate. If you truly love each other, things will work out.