My wife is pregnant with another mans child?

Question

My wife is pregnant with another mans child. We have been married for a year and don't yet have children of OUR own. The other man doesn't want the child and now she is crawling back to me but i don't want anything to do with her. she has lost all of my trust and i don't think i can ever forgive her. Should i help her raise another mans child or tell her to figure it out herself.

Answer 1

Ummmm. In your other question, you were married to her for five years ans your asking which one is better.

Do you havet two wives or are you making up stories?/

Which is it mister?

Answer 2

Married for a year and she already cheated on you? I don't know why she cheated but the fact that she did so early on in your marriage would be a red flag to me.

Trust is so hard to gain back once you have lost it. Only you know whether you love her enough and are committed enough to your marriage to give her another chance.

Only you know whether you can love that child and accept it as your own. If you can't then don't even bother asking if you should give her another chance. It wouldn't be fair to the child.

Answer 3

tell her you have something important to tell her.

then drive her 20 miles out of town and kick her out of your car,

that will teach the *****

Answer 4

I don't think you can ever trust her again either.  If you forgive her--take her back and help raise the child--how do you know that she will not go get pregnant by another man and want you to raise that child also???  Nope--taking her back will only cause more problems.

Answer 5

well check the laws in your state I know some places have a law that says if you are still legally married even if she has a baby with someone else YOU, her husband have to pay child support for the child ... This law  SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!

I am a woman and I hate women like your wife ... Sorry about that ... good luck and I hope you live in a "fair" State ...

Answer 6

Oh my goodness that is a tough one.....Personally I could not do it...To me the trust has been broken and you can never forget.  I can understand a spouse making a mistake maybe... but getting pregnant and coming back only  because the other man wants nothing to do with her.  She is hurt and is runnng back to you.  To me it is not acceptable but I do not want to tell you how to handle your marriage.  Only you can answer that.  I just could not see it working out for you guys in the long run.  I look at it as if you do it once and get away with it then they are capable of doing it again.  The trust is now gone and it will be hard to repair the relationship.  

Answer 7

You just said you don't want anything to do with her.

Why should you help out? and are you SURE this child isn't yours?

I would get a paternity test done when the child is born, if it turns out to not be your then kick the cheatin lady to the curb.

Cheaters don't deserve second chances.

Answer 8

Cut your losses now. save your self, yes you are hurt who wouldn't be!

I would be devastated!!!

what a cow, no she made her choice when she slept with this other guy.

I'm sorry for this hard time you are going through

make a new start you you will find someone that really deserves your love

Answer 9

save yourself and let her go. You have the rest of your life to be happy don't let her take you down

Answer 10

Laugh in her face and dump her to the curb. For one, she was a horrible wife. In ANY faith or religion she did not hold up her moral obligation to you. Why should you raise someone else's child because she couldn't keep her legs closed? You shouldn't... She is only running back to you because she has no other options. The trust will never be there because she has betrayed you. Why live your life in doubt? You shouldn't have to. She made her bed, now let her lay in it. Good luck to you.

Answer 11

wow umm...im really sorry. I really dont want you to give any advice that could mess anything up more. Ask her why she cheated and if she is sorry and willing to spend her life wife JUST YOU then i would take her back. But if shes not at all trustworthy and not really caring then tell her theres no second chance....i hope everything works out for the best

Answer 12

she should figure herself, she is a *****!!!

Answer 13

DIVORCE

Answer 14

the basis for a good long standing relationship is trust and friendship. If you have lost it all for her (and I dont blame you) then let her deal with the consequences of her actions.

my opinion is however is that you should find someone who is faithful to you even if your married for 50 years which is what you should be striving for in a marriage.

Answer 15

Tell her to figure it out herself.

Answer 16

People do not cheat on people they are happy with.

If you stay with her she will make a fool of you. She will do this again.

File for Divorce and never look back.

Answer 17

hey everyone makes mistakes no one is perfect.. yeah your wife def should not have had another child with another man while married to you but does that mean just kick her to the curb.. switch it on you if you were the one who cheated and got another women pregnant and the pregnant women didn't want you so you went crawling back to your wife would you want her to take you back??... everyone has different insights on how to handle this i would just do what you feel is best cause its you that has to deal with it we just read what you write.. good luck with everything.. keep your head up..  

Answer 18

Only you will know how you feel about this situation, but one thing to remember, no matter what your wife has done, this child is an innocent in this mess and deserves to be loved and cared for should your wife decide to go through with the pregnancy, if you do not feel you can do this then make the break now to avoid causing the child any emotional suffering or confusion. Also, if you do decide you cant do it, make sure the child isn't yours, have a DNA test once the baby is born, you don't have to be a husband to the baby's mother in order to be a good father. Good Luck and best wishes.

Answer 19

NO WAY!!  That's the price she has to pay for her actions.  She should start preparing to raise the child on her own.  She can get child support from the other man if she needs to.  You need to move on to a relationship where you can trust again.  If you take your wife back, you will always resent her for what she has done.  You may think you can forgive, but it will always come up.  I am very sorry for you being in this unfortunate situation.  I'm sure it's very painful.  Just be strong and stay true to yourself.

Answer 20

Now why one earth would waste your emotional and financial on someone that doesn't belong to you. Even if you forgive that her, she just cheat on you again. Let her figure it out by herself.

Answer 21

no ! let her deal with it , shes getting what she deserves .

Answer 22

if you love her then i think you should support her but if the only reason shes coming bak to you is just because she needs someone to help her finacially then i think its up to you but maybe its wrong

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Answer 23

let HER figure it out.

this is nothing for you.

she went behind your back, and you have no reason to help her now.

Answer 24

let her figure it out.

Answer 25

that is a question that only U can answer...only U know what u can accept & if u can wholeheartedly accept your wife's indiscretion & this innocent child as your own, then do that...but, if u cant then be honest with your wife & let her know that u cant...i know this is a hard & difficult situation & i am sorry 4 your hurt...good luck & GOD bless!!!

Answer 26

If you still love this women and care about her -

support her. Be there for her mentally, emotionally an finacially...

You can still be that father -

it isn't your child, but that baby is going to grow up not having a father/or a good role model to stick around. Bring this child into a life that he/she would want. It be hard to earn that trust between the 2 of you , but work it throu and get marriage counsoling...

Answer 27

I honestly don't think you should help her!! She got herself into this situation let her get herself out!! You know what they say about cheaters!! Once a cheater always a cheater!!! But, I'm afraid that none of us can make this decision for you, only you can!! But, I do wish you the best hun, your in for a long, hard, bumpy road!! Feel free to email me with any more ? if you think I can help!! Wishing you the best in your decisions!!

Answer 28

h**l no u shouldn't!  your wife is a very bad person and she is a poopy head.  (im 8)

Answer 29

You've already said you don't want anything to do with her, so the decision has been made. This is something she is gonna have to live with, and you shouldn't feel guilty about that.

Answer 30

Save yourself the pain and heartache and leave this woman immediately. She has betrayed you in such a way that you will never be able to forgive her or trust her again.  

Answer 31

Divorce and let her be on her merry way. She obviously didn't love or think about you when she was sleeping with that other guy. Not very nice of her to treat you as the fall back guy/husband.