My wife left me and my grandmother dying?

Question

my wife left me it was messy she gave me hope and there was none never take anti depresents it made me hit her in 23 years of marriage never an excuse i should have not taken the advice of a marriage counselor holds back feelings now my grandmother is dying i am real close to her and trying to keep strong she is 97 but i am breaking down my mother needs help i live with them both just feel so bad right now what a year all this within 4 months trying to cope any suggestions as to how to deal with this ? should i take an stress pill or do it naturally ? remember i need to be strong as i can for my mother .

Answer 1

I'm so sorry you are going through all of that right now!  That's very hard to deal with!  My prayers are with you and your grandmother.  It's a personal decision if you would like to take the pills or not.  I know several people who are on them, and there are lots of different kinds.  The pills make a world of difference in some people, and not much in others.  It may take trying several different prescriptions for you to find the one that works best for you.  Personally, I do not like taking any kind of pills.  I have never tried taking antidepressants or antianxiety medication, and I'm currently trying natural ways to combat depression-(my Mama is dying, and my relationship is not going that well).  I read that exercise, a healthy diet, and meditation and/or spirituality can really help.  I know that my dad and my sister rely heavily on their relationships with God.  My sister is also on antidepressants, and she works out all the time.  Personally, I'm not particularly religious, so I'm going with the exercise, healthy diet, meditation route.  I ordered a punching bag today to relieve stress, and get exercise-(go to www.walmart.com to get the bag/gloves/hand wraps for under $90 with shipping).  The article I read yesterday said to limit your carbohydrate intake, as it effects your endorphins.  There are lots of kinds of meditation.  I've heard yoga is great for your mind and body.  I have been avoiding counseling, but I know that eventually I will need to talk to a grief counselor.  If your grandmother has a health care provider, ask them if they know of somewhere that offers counseling.  I am able to get free counseling through the hospice care that my mother recieves.  It's up to you what route to take, but if you try the natural route, and you don't see an improvement in 3-4 weeks, or if you progressively get more depressed or have suicidal thoughts, then seek professional help immeadiately.  Even a general practice doctor can prescribe antidepressants if you don't want to go to a psychiatrist.  Again, my sincerest apologies on your current situation, and my thoughts are with you.

Answer 2

First i am sorry to hear about your grandmother. And it sounds like you have had it rough in the last 4 months, i know how you feel about being strong for your mother, and that is one of the hardest things to be,and more so when you know that someone you love in your family is dying, you do not have to go to the doctors to get something to help you through this stressful time as you can get some herbal pills from a chemist, just ask the pharmacist what he/she can suggest and they may advice you what to take maybe even give you something without prescription, or you could go along to your doctor and get a prescribed pills to help you through, the choice is yours. I would like to tell you how i know how hard it is to be strong is because when my husband was dying 17 years ago i had to be strong for my children, and help them through his death, yes i did grieve but in my own room and when they were out as i didn't want them to see me cry as that would have upset them even more, i do wish you well and please don't grieve to much as i am sure your beloved grandmother wouldn't want you to, and that i am sure of, she is going to a far better place than living here on earth, and all her pain, troubles and worries will be gone she will be at a long deserved rest, as that is the way i think of things as it is only us here on earth that still have to live with all the things, please think about it, and i do wish you well take care.

Answer 3

First of all, i can barely read all that...

You didn'tt put any kind of punctuation in there..

Second, are you saying in there that you BEAT her??

Because im pretty sure that if thats the case, Than every bit of misery you have right now is well deserved. "anti depresents made me hit her" is a COP OUT!

Those are supposed to make you happy, not angry..

I have no sympothy for you, or your situation. Seek mental, medical help.