My wife moved in an apartment above her exhusband because she wanted some time apart. what do you think?

Question

We have been married for 3 years and we have argued about silly things off and on. In the last month we would argue and then I began to see her personal items disapear from our home. It seemed she started arguments intentionally. I tried numerous times to reconcile, but it always ended with an arguement. She talked openly about what things she wanted if we divorced. Then 2 weeks ago she said she had an apartemt and she wanted to get away for awhlle. I noticed she took leagal documents out of our safe, she took photos' clothing for a year etc. She even tried to take my wedding rings. Yes I am very patient and trusting. The night she decided she was not going to stay at our home I filed for divorce. In the next couple of day I found our wedding photo album and was surprised to see photos of her in her wedding dress dancing with her exhusband. Not one photo of me dancing with her. I guess I was a fool. What do you think?

Answer 1

I think you need to let her go and find another woman. Finalize the divorce and make sure the next woman is not hung up on another man.

You were probably so in love, that you did not even feel like you were being used. It seems like you were the transitional man. Now that she is gone, make sure that you heal before involving another woman.

Answer 2

Steve, you deserve a better wife.    Sounds like she never got over her 1st husband and used you to cure her loneliness.  You deserve better.  Let this one go.

Answer 3

she sounds confused...

Answer 4

You were right to file for divorce. If you dont let yourself be blind, all of the obvios signs are there right in your face. She wanted to leave, and she did. She planned it out to the T. So, my suggestion, get back whatever legal documents that you can, pack op the rest of her ****, change the locks on the doors and make sure that she doesnt try to clean you out in the divorce. Else her ex hubby will be using your golf clubs and watching your big screen tv.

Good luck, and get over her, you deserve better!

Answer 5

what do i think?? um exactly what you fear.

she's banging her ex.

and you know well, when ever spouse say the need time apart what that means.

so be a man and take some action.

divorce her

Answer 6

Good for you, dude! They can c**p on us, but let's not let them wipe our face in it!

Answer 7

I think you did the right thing contacting a divorce lawyer. Let her be her ex husband's problem and not yours. I'm guessing there have been many more things you could have told us. Move on with your life and thank God that you found out now and not 10 years from now!

Answer 8

Dude, you got trick by her. She was never over her ex husband. Still she tried to move on with you but it just didn't work. Sorry Dude.  

Answer 9

Sounds like she is not over her ex. Im sorry for you. You got the bad end of the relationship. Good luck to you but sorry she is doing this to you.

Answer 10

She is probably wanting to have it both ways. Tell her that you love her, but that you can't be with her if she is with him. If she honestly wants to be with you, you should both try marriage counseling.

Answer 11

Yes, you got fooled.  I'd give her LOTS of time to herself.

Answer 12

Ur human. Sometimes even when the signs are in our face, we cant see them.

You have been patient. You have been more than accomidating.

Time to move on. Get the divorce, so she can go argue with someone else. Your life is too precious to waste it with someone who doesnt appreciate u!

Answer 13

she plotted and planned this,she was picking fights,so she could justify leaving u.your not wrong, she wants to come back to u so she can skin u out of more things, or maybe things did not work out with her ex, so she thinks she can waltz in and out of your life ripping your heart apart.she clearly planned this thing way before, and picked fights in order to move, and now sees maybe the grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. don't let her come back, why invest in a one sided love affair.

Answer 14

Obviously its not a coincidence that she moved in right next to her ex. I wouldn't call you a fool. She just doesn't know what she wants.