My wife sometimes gets angry with me and shouts at me. and i dont like being shouted at, what should I do.?

Question

Why does she shout at me, especially when she knows I hate it..and I guess she has a problem with anger (which she does not acknowledge). she thinks I am the one who has a problem..bcos I ask her why she shouts at me - she asks me to be a man and grow up! I dont want to shout back at her because, it could become a physical fight and i dont want to get scratched and stuff. If we have a fight, she doesnt talk to me (which drives me mad)..and we finally, somehow start talking and acting normal. She never apologizes..and more than that she thinks its my fault and that she was right in shouting at me. I dont know how to resolve this at all..

Answer 1

Here is what you do start making funny faces and laughing out loud every  time she yells at you . If she is yelling at you to make you angry the will surely p**s her off to. Now when she says something about it tell her that everytime she yells at you you'll you will just make faces an laugh . Trust me she will stop.

Answer 2

don't worry in time you'll forget she's even talking to you

Answer 3

She is immature, selfish and doesn't have a clue how to fight fair. She thinks because she is louder that somehow makes her more right. I would tell her the next time she makes a comment about your manhood, that you are very much a man, if you weren't you would have popped her one a long time ago. Maybe she should try acting like a lady. The silent treatment is a game babies play. Grown-ups talk about their problems and solve them. And everybody is wrong sometimes and needs to apologize. Women have a way of twisting everything so that men are always wrong, its because our brains are quicker with words. If this isn't fixed it will only get worse. She will get more and more abusive and you will get angry and depressed. If she starts yelling...walk away and tell her you're not discussing anything until she can talk like a human being.  

Answer 4

She knows how to push your buttons and she seem to be in complete control of your relationship. Try ignoring her no matter how much it gets under your skin. When she yells just act like it isn't bothering you. It will probably p**s her off more but whatever you do don't let her get to you. If she still won't quit just leave the house.  Its all a game and you just have to quit playing it the way she wants.

Answer 5

Ever hear of  SPOUSAL SELECTIVE HEARING..........  GET IT. it workds well!

Answer 6

Well 1...you cant live with them for very long, and you cant kill them.

2.  My therapist after the 2nd one said, when she gets to a point that i dont want to hear...just tell her in 10 seconds if it doesnt change.....the conversation is over.... for awihile that worked...cuz i hung up....then after awhile it didnt work so much

3.  I learned to totally ignore it when she goes int "THAT" mode...but that doesnt help either.

So after 3 divorces....i hung around long enough to find a mate that didnt yell... she was more 4th trip to the altar...and this 1/2/09 will be the 14th anniversary.  Oh yeah we have our problems..but ive learned they are all MY problems...that was the key......is acceptance that im stupid.  now our relationship is wonderful....

except for the amount of s*x...now don't get me wrong...i have plenty of it....it just would be nice to have it with a partner now and again.  Which in and of itself is again a problem...but i do understand that it is MY problem, so all is well......geez, sigh

Answer 7

You sound like my husband. I don't know what your particular situation is, but from my experience my husband can 'push my button' in a way no other does. He says and does things that are the catalyst towards my anger. I have recognized that I have an anger issue. Especially since I know that he has done things to me that has made me very angry, like cheating on me while I am pregnant and never saying he would try to make up for that. Although, he couldn't. What is done is done. I have tried to forgive, but it's almost impossible to forget. Well, enough about me.

As for you and yours. Find the best time and place to ask your wife what is the real issue being so angry at you. But you must first recognize she is not the only guilty party. You have some responsibility too. She will be more accepting when she realize you are not make her out to be wrong all the time.

Answer 8

Sometimes we just get so mad that we have to yell. It is better to yell and get out your frustration. You both need to sit down and try to work it out and if you can't then try to get help from an outside source.