My wife wants a divorce again?

Question

now we have never been divorced before, in fact we got married in december of 2007. almost every time my wife drinks she threatens me with a divorce, now i never tell her i want a divorce but she usually does when shes drinking after her friends leave for the night, but it only happens after she drinks with her friends but her friends never say anything about a divorce. if she drinks with just me then she never says anything about it. what should i do?

Answer 1

WHY WOULD YOU REMARRY SOMEONE AFTER YOU HAVE BEEN DIVORCED? NOT A SMART MOVE........SOUNDS LIKE SHE DOESN'T CARE AND WOULD DO IT AGAIN. TALK TO HER ABOUT WHAT SHE'S SAYING IF SHE DOESN'T MEAN IT SHE SHOULDN'T SAY THAT AT ALL..... GET A DIVORCE SOUNDS BETTER.

Answer 2

Wait until she is sober and ask her.  She doesn't happy to me.

Answer 3

Talk to her.. Thats why most people get a divorce poor communication. Im still young myself i just turned 25 and ive been married for over 6 years and i know that when i have a problem i talk to my husband. COMMUNICATE.. Or you can just tell her if thats what she wants there is the door!!

Answer 4

It sounds like she needs to lay off the alcohol!

You need to talk to her when she is sober and ask her why she behaves this way. Until she acknowledges that she has issues with controlling the booze and her behavior, you will continue to hear the threats.

Good luck.

Answer 5

talk to her when she is not drunk... I think her friends put these ideas in her head!

Answer 6

Hide the alcohol and get her an intervention!

Answer 7

Ask the useless drunkard how much she wants to go. And good riddance to bad rubbish.

Answer 8

"A drunk mans words are a sober mans thoughts"

You need to find out what the problem is and deal with it.

On a side note, my wife has done that to me a few  times. The LAST time she did it I told her OK and then continued on how I'd fight her like h**l for my daughter and that I would fight for the home as well. I also told her about people I know that could help financially and that I didn't care if we both ended up living in shack as long as I was with my daughter.....................she has never said another word about it.

Answer 9

Sometimes I do the same thing to my bf everytime I drink after my friends leave, and this is why I do. I sometimes feel like what am I doing, is this right? Look how much fun I have with my friends and not you. I could be somewhere else right now. She probably is just taking it hard realizing she's married now, and almost misses the single life, (but REALLY DOESN'T but she is just confused). I stopped drinking so much where I get to that point, because I say things I don't mean, and it's not fair to my bf. Usually shots did that to me to, I now just drink mix drinks and maybe one shot! But I know my limit, and I won't let myself get passed it to where I get like that. My bf also sat me down and told me I need to choose going out or him. I realized he was more important to me then going out.  But him talking to me helped me realize that yes I can still go do that, but I choose this path of my life for a reason, and I just need to be thankful for that. Hope I helped a little. But what I would suggest you to do, is talk to her about it. Maybe tell her you can choose. Next time she gets really drunk leave, scare her to where shes like omgosh what did I do the next morning. You can even maybe video record her while she's drunk (without her knowing) and show her first thing in the morning. To show her what she looks like and how she acts. IT will help her better understand how she is making her look, and hopefully it will help her. But GOODLUCK!! and wish the best for you and her.

Answer 10

you have no backbone. divorce the drunk slob and move on. millions of women out there...man isn't meant to be with one woman anyway.

Answer 11

so give her the attorneys number, for pete's sake!!

Answer 12

I agree with renee....

Answer 13

Some people are the most honest when they're drunk. Next time she's says that she wants a divorce to you when she's drunk, confront her the next morning when she's sober and call her on it. If she's said this to you more then once, there must be some reason that she might be unhappy. I'd probably say that she's unhappy with herself if she's always drinking and just wants to take it out on you to make you feel bad too, misery loves company  

Answer 14

either she goes to AA or you divroce her....The D word shouldn't be brought up unless things are extremely bad. AA would be best thought.

Answer 15

Call her bluff and see if she folds.