My wife will not make love to me unless i set the mood?

Question

so how can i set the mood i have never had to before and we have no money so i need to know how to set the mood i will try all most any thing i have to get her drunk before she has s*x with me and she told me i need to set the mood

Answer 1

Oh my....your devoted.....She sounds like....MOUTH SHUT.....So try buying a rose, take all the petals off one by one and spread them across your freshly made bed with a card or letter telling her how you feel about her. A single rose is like 2.00 If not less. Im sorry you have to try so hard though.

Answer 2

Try simple things like maybe have her take a shower after you.  While she is showering light some candles, turn on soft music, and sprinkle some rose peddles on the bed.  If that does not work, use some toys or maybe some massage oils.  Give her a back rub or full body...that might work.  You may not have had to work for it before, but after you are married the s*x life sometimes needs to be kept alive as if you were young all over again.  

Answer 3

Setting the mood does not require money or getting drunk. You need to be nice to her and touch her through out the day. Come up behind her and nussel her neck. Make out in the kitchen without trying to get her into bed. Hold her hand in the car, compliment her looks, bring home some cheap flowers. Women don't always like to just jump in. Alot of times it is better for us if it is drawn out.

Kudos on the effort and listing to what she is saying!

Answer 4

Forge t*t dude, she is using you and manipulating you with s*x. All wives do that so get rid of the *********.!

Answer 5

She sounds like she doesn't really love you. Being drunk to make love would feel unreal. I am sorry you have to go through this.

Answer 6

If you need to set the mood, then all she is saying is, she isn't interested in you.  Nothing you do will really satisfy her...that's very plain.  If you have to get her drunk to have s*x with you, what does that say to you?  It says, she doesn't really want to do it with you.

Whoopie, buddy...I think you and her need counseling..I think you are on a track record to the Big D unless she suddenly warms up.

Answer 7

I think you should try all the no cost ideas you've read here & also try this: Instigate at least one heavy kissing session everyday for the next 3 days ...without having s*x...that's right...kiss passionately for at least 3-5 minutes, slowly moving your hands up & down her body, pulling her toward you, (don't be rough or act like you're in a hurry) then stop kissing her, smile & release your grip & walk away. See what happens on the 4th day. She just might take over. If she does....well, go with the moment.

Answer 8

Play music, lower the lights and set some drinks out (champagne, wine, whatever she likes).  

Answer 9

mabey you havent found the right way to turn her on....i suggest lighting candles and changing the sheets ...set a tone for the room...have chocolate dipped strawberries and apples chocolates and apple sider!!!

Answer 10

You know how they say, food goes to the guys heart?  Well if you want to se tthe mood, go out  and pick her some flowers doesnt matter if they are wild or not.. Its the thought that counts...  Second, make her favorite dish of food, set some candles on the table and have a romantic dinner,  Then light candles in your bathroom, have her take a bubble bath or take one with her.. Your a guy, but come on i know you got to be a softy somewhere.. Then set some candles and some music in the bedroom. I know that sounds cheesey but hey it works. Woman tend to fall for the stuff that seems to be the cheesiest..

Answer 11

First you have to set her up through out the day, by sending her little love messages and a few naughty ones. So all day she is just thinking of you. Then when you get her home flirt, whisper in her ear, comment her smell, pr her clothes. Run some bath water, give her a message. Just simply cater to her. Make her feel like the only woman alive and she will be peeling your clothes off with her teeth. OWWWWW. do it big daddy.  

Answer 12

Hey its may sound funny but toys and rose pettals and stuff may help her candles also www.brownbagparty.com/20056 (the site is the whole thing even the /20056) i sell them if you need advice on what to get im here to help you good luck or the candles is www.mygccandle.com/candlescents4you

Answer 13

You need to start first thing in the morning. It doesn't take money to show her that you love and need her. In the morning, try fixing her something to eat. Nothing big, just enough for her to notice. leave her a sweet note where she can find it.Call her to say that you love, miss and need her In your life. Help her cook dinner. while rubbing her lightly on the back. Kisses to her forehead and look her deep into her eyes while she's talking to you. Make sure you tell her how you are happy that you have her and how sorry you are for slipping. You'll sore big. Meanwhile she's taking a hot bath for bed. Light 3 to four candles around the room or take a big scarf and cover the lamp to give the room a nice color. Rub her in lotion. You might want to put on some slow music. NO TV!

Answer 14

You write soooooo  poorly, so I assume you read poorly as well, therefore, recommending a few books is likely worthless, here, right?

So, hon, right between the eyes________

It's not your wife, sweetie, it's you.  

To be absolutely blunt, your p***s is for your pleasure, your mouth your hands and lots of tender, loving time are for her.  

Ever hear of Casanova ???(google it, doubtful that you have...)  He had women lined up, hon, and it wasn't because of his erection.

This is about as direct as I can get, in as simple a language as I can muster, given how poorly you write.  

Hope, hon, that this was helpful...

Answer 15

If the only way she will have s*x with you is if you do as you are told I would be telling her no s*x. What the h**l is that? My way or none. If you put up with that your whole life will be like that and she will get worse and worse.