My wifewants to have children, is it right to let her go? I dont want kids at all.I want her 2 find a good man

Question

My wifewants to have children, is it right to let her go? I dont want kids at all.I want her 2 find a good man

Answer 1

Well you should have discussed this before marrying her. If she absolutely wants kids and you absolutely don't then maybe you should get divorced because one of you will be miserable. Or you may turn out to love fatherhood once it happens.

Answer 2

I think you should have discussed this before you took vows to be married.  

Answer 3

Like several people have already said, this should've been discussed before marriage. If it wasn't, you should sit down and talk about it now. This is definitely a subject that cannot be compromised. Either you are both in or both out. There is no in between.

If she's not willing to listen to you and she can't be married to someone who doesn't want kids, I would say break up.

Answer 4

talk to her let her make the choice!

Answer 5

If you love her, why would you want to 'let her go'?

Let her have a child!

If you don't love her, then it's not up to you to 'let her go'!

Leave her be.

Answer 6

Didn't you discuss what you want before you got married?

Why did you marry her to begin with?  You both need to discuss this with each other and probably a counselor to be able to either work it out or end it.  You need to discuss these things with her, seriously.  

Tell her how you feel.  Tell her why you don't want kids.  What are the reasons?  Discuss these things with her.  How long have you two been married?

Answer 7

I think that would be something you two need to sit down and talk about. Ask her if its more important for her to have kids or be with you. If her answer is kids... then perhaps its time you guys went your separate ways. However, if you guys are a young couple, give it some more time. One of you might change your mind a few years down the road.  

Answer 8

Have an open and honest conversation with her. I was in a relationship like that way back, and I was fortunate enough to leave it before we got too serious.

We actually talked about children, and I was very adamant about staying child-free, but he assumed that I would somehow change my mind and just let me be. I thought he was ambivalent and that he was leaving it up to me, he thought I was going trough a phase. We were both wrong. The 500th time he said "when we have children, we'll..." I just gave him back the engagement ring, got up and left. I couldn't see myself having children, he kept hoping to have a family.

Women often think that they'll change their husband's mind. Don't have kids unless you really want them- it's not fair to have a child that is unwanted and resented.

Your relationship can be saved, but you'll both have to do lots of soul-searching, and figure out your priorities. The key is to be open and honest.

Until you figure out what to do, make sure you use reliable birth control. I am not saying that your wife will try to pull this on you, but some women think it's very nifty to "forget" to take their birth control and try to trick the guy into having children.

Answer 9

Well, If your not happy then you should let her go.

Answer 10

Sure if you want too. This is a sick question.

Answer 11

if she is not willing to sacrifice motherhood for you, then yes.

love is strong, but it is her wish and right to have children. if you are resistant to her dream then let her go. you can be friends, but she wants kids.

Answer 12

Maybe you should talk to her.

If you really love her, i think you'll do the right thing.

Answer 13

Nothing more miserable than being married, and the both of you do not want the same things or have the same goals.

Answer 14

ok this is something the two of you should of talked about before you got married. if you married her knowing that she wanted kids and knowing how you felt about it then yea right now your in the wrong!! i think when you get married to someone that ur choosing to spend ur life with them through thick and thin no matter what!

so yea ur in the wrong, why would you wanna let someone go that u married o but you supposivly love her??  

Answer 15

Well, I think the who wants to have children and who doesn't issue should have been discussed before you guys got married. Relationships really don't work out when one person wants kids and the other doesn't. You will have to talk this over with your wife and if things don't seem too promising then maybe going your separate ways is the best thing...

Answer 16

This is one of those deal breakers. You can't compromise on it. There is no way to only have half of a kid.

So yes, if you can't come to an agreement, you need to go your separate ways.

But this is something you should have agreed on before marriage!!!

Answer 17

You should work at your marriage and eventually when you put oneanother in each others boots, you'll see another viewpoint, and I'm sure that you will find a compromise. Don't leave her, work at the marriage and get a better knowing of oneanother. You have probably asked this question during a depressing day. You are probably feeling melancholic. But seriously, splitting up is never a solution.

Answer 18

your an idiot! you married her because you love her and the whole idea of marriage is to spend the rest of your lives together, but now she wants to build your love into a family you bail out?! your a fool and your going to end up a lonely old man. in my eyes your nothing but a coward!

Answer 19

The answer to these questions should have been resolved before you two got married. If you knew that she wanted kids but you didn't then you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place.

Answer 20

Sometimes I really don't understand people. Are you telling us that you never talked about whether or not you wanted to have children?? Clearly you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place if you had different opinions about this.

This is something you need to discuss with your wife. Don't just divorce her because you're thinking it'll make her happy. If she wants kids more than being married to you, then let her make that decision.  

Answer 21

Yes, please let her know how you feel and let her go easy.  I had the same problem when I was married and I wish he would have just told me.  Now I am with someone wonderful and I just found out that I am pregnant and we are very happy.  Believe me, she will get over you.

Answer 22

let her know!!! and if she really wants to have kids- u need to let her go.

Answer 23

yes i would let her go...denying someone of kids is something she may always resent you for. she is possibly hoping you will change your mind. you need to be honest with her and tell her if she wants kids you need to part ways. although this is something you should have established before getting married. good luck

Answer 24

god no! i hope that you will take my opinion seriosly! EVERY parent regrets having kids! you will never have as much fun again untill they moove out! and bye that time, you will be old and will want to do boring stuff.  dont! and it will be even worse on youre wife! more cleaning more responsibility, no more having fun, or awsome friday nights, or just plaine enjoyment of life! no more time alone for just you to. they ALWAYS want and need something! no concern for whatr you want!

Answer 25

Guess you guys should have worked this out before you got married.  

Answer 26

I, think you should of told her this from the beginning, so she could have had the option of marrying you or not! I hope if you let her go you don't regret it later. How old are you ? Do you think you will ever want kids?