My younger brother is going to come out.?

Question

My younger brother who is living with me, is thinking about telling his new friends that he is g*y soon. What should I say to him? What coming out advice should I give him? please no rude anti coming out comments.

Answer 1

you should encourage him and try to be really supportive..also, let him know that if by chance his friends aren't accepting of his sexuality, they weren't worth his time or friendship to begin with....

Answer 2

i think u should just tell him that no matter what u support him and u will always be there for him... that if he feels better coming out, then go ahead and do it... that u will be there right beside him...

i don't think there's any advises u could give him as to what to say to his friends.. either they will accept him or they won't... but u know u will always accept him, and u should support him even when there are others that don't... he will appreciate it...

i don't think that ther's a better/easier way of saying "i'm g*y" and that won't guarantee that people will accept u for who u r... there are people who are homophobic... and no matter what u say to them they might never accept u.. but u can always make him feel better no matter what his friends' response will be... if they accept him, good, be there for hi.. if they don't.. who cares, he can make better friends who will not judge him... and just be there 2 make him feel better, protected, safe, not judged by others...

and i'm glad that u r so supporitve and love ur brother regardless

Answer 3

First and foremost, make sure he knows that you love him.

That being said, I'd ask him to really be sure that this is who he is. I'm not saying he needs to rethink his life, but I've had friends who've had their lives ruined by coming out and then (after much soul searching) begin to identify as straight once more, alienating not only their families, but also their new LGBT friends as well.

If he truly is g*y, then just make sure that he knows nothing between you is changing.

Also, the last time one of my male friends came out, we threw a huge coming out party and invited everyone we knew. It was awesome. :)

Answer 4

all u can do is support him in his decision

Answer 5

You're a good brother. Tell him he doesn't need a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend.

Tell him to take his time, put his focus on career, make a little money and save it. Eventually he'll have to get his own space. Tell him don't smoke, use sunscreen, and he'll be fine.  

Answer 6

You should be there with him when he does it.  Just incase his friends don't take it as well as planned, as long as they see you're accepting it they are more likely to handle it like adults.  It also depends on what he wants to do.  Does he feel comfortable handling it himself.  Help him pick a secure location to do it in, not like some where in public where worst comes to worst and a scene could be made.

Best of luck to him and you!

Answer 7

Well, you should tell him to find out if they are accepting towards homosexual people. If they aren't I would advise you to let him hold it off until he is a little older (assuming he is indeed young.)

If he tells them and they don't accept it, just make sure you are there for him. He might not like being around people if he is rejected by society, even more so when they are his own friends, but he'll come around and appreciate your company later.

I hope this helps, and good luck!

Answer 8

just support him in his decision but remember the truth can hurt and kids can be cruel