My younger cousin thinks she's going to get pregnant at a young age. Is this my fault?

Question

I am almost 16 and I found out I was pregnant about 8 weeks ago. My mom had always thought that my younger cousin (will be 13 in May) will end up pregnant around 15 or 16, my dad also and my sister (19) too. My cousin spent the night here on Monday and told me that she thinks she's going to end up pregnant when she's around my age and that she wouldn't be upset if she found out she was. I am really worried about her even though I know both her and her mother have no problems with teen pregnancy and that her mother will be really helpful if she got pregnant. Is this my fault? What can I do to make her prevent getting pregnant early? I wouldn't mind her getting pregnant in 2 1/2- 3 years, but I am scared for her. I know she'd make a good mother, but I don't know how her family is going to take it. Her mom and her aunt I know won't find it a terrible thing, but her grandparents (of whom she lives with) and her stepfather may not be so understanding and how she's going to deal with the kids at school and everything. What should I do? Should I talk to her about it, let it go or what should I do?? She watches baby borrowers, The Secret Life of the American Teenager and she loved the movie Juno. Do you think any of this is affecting her? Please help! Answers highly appreciated! Please no harsh answers! I know I am too young to be pregnant and I heard that enough from my dad before he left and stopped talking to me, so I really would reather not hear it from all of you. Thanks everyone!

~Secret Keeper~

p.s. please don't report me... thanks = D

Answer 1

I don't think it's your fault but I think you being pregnant at such a young age has influenced her some. You need to discourage her on this. Having a baby at a young age isn't a piece of pie(you'll find out soon enough)! Tell her not to follow in your footsteps and that she will be a good mother in 5+ years!

Answer 2

No its not your fault so dont blame yourself... Take her to the doctors and get an implant which will stop her getting pregnant, make sure you talk to her first though... hope i hellped and congrats on the baby, xx

Answer 3

tell her to wait until your baby is born, then have her stay over for a week and see what its REALLY like.

im sure that'll change her mind =]

Answer 4

be there for her, and always make sure she has condoms. go over with her to "make love" with someone who she wouldn't mind fathering her baby, even then she should stay protected. help get her on birth control or something. && you don't need parental consent to get it, but some places will tell your parents. just be there for her in every way you can.

Answer 5

congrats on the pregnancy =]

sorry but its a young age but you'll be a good mom!!

yes i think you should talk to your cuzin she might regret it but then again might not...either way talk to her....

Answer 6

this day in age a girl only gets pregnant if she wants to with easy acsess to many forms of birth control including the morning after pill there is no excuse , and don't think it will not happen  

Answer 7

i don't think so. it's her decision if she wants a baby as a teenager i don't think tv has anything to do with it or you. thats my opinion i may be wrong idk.

but i think your cousin may want a baby when she gets about your age. if she does have one, people are just going to have to accept it.

Answer 8

Your cousin is ignorant, sorry to say, she is setting herself for failure.

That kind of attitude will push her mind to follow the steps necessary to become pregnant.

If she looks up to you, then she will think what you do is fine and you should seriously reconsider your actions and think of becoming a better role model.

So your cousin already knows she will be sexually active by then if she isnt now?

wow, how pathetic im sorry, but this is also due to VERY POOR PARENTING

society and the media to are portraying life as a PG teenager falsely...

Its very very stupid for someone to say I THINK IMA BE PG BY 16! WTF is that!?

she is planning to get pg, first of all

please TALK TO HEr, let her know that men WILL RESPECT her more if she DOESNT PUT OUT...

Yes we want women, yet the ones that put out early, we have minimal respect for them, and the ones who hold out , then dam MEN are way more attracted to those girls.

She will ruin her life and somebody elses, as well as the child,

she should be thinking, I WANT TO BE A SUCCESS, i want to Finish school and succeed in life so when i am OF PROPER age I can give my CHILD ANYTHING THEY WANT!!!

Man I dont know what to say, im disgusted by this and you should seriously find your cousin a HOBBY, like playing sports, ANYTHING to get her on the right path,

I know many women who ruined their lives having children at 14 16 17 18... If she was at least 20 she has a better understanding of the world, but she is only 13 !! and 16 is no time to have a child, YOU YOURSELF are still a child at that age, so why bring in a young one when you can barely take care of yourself!!!

WHEN ARE YOU READY TO HAVE A KID?

The day she can move out, and support herself and still have money left over , thats the day SHE SHOULD THINK OF HAVING A KID,

DONT BURDEN YOUR PARENTS with raising and putting up with your child, THEY WILL ACCEPT it because they are blood, but Your parents already raised you! so Finish school, move out, get a job and then have a child...

A good mother needs a good head on her shoulders..

IF SHE IS GOING TO BE SEXUALLY ACTIVE teach her about BIRTH CONTROL the PILL and CONDOMS!!!!

Answer 9

MY OLDER SIS HAD A BABY WHEN SHE WAS 16 YEARS OLD I WAS 6 AT THE TIME. IM 23 NOW AND I STILL DONT HAVE KIDS. JUST BECAUSE U GOT PREGNANT IN A YOUNG AGE DOESNT MEAN SHE GUNNA BE PREGNANT TOO. TELL HER THAT IF SHE PLANS TO HAVE s*x TO WAIT, BUT IF SHE SEXUALLY ACTIVE THEN TELL HER THERE CONDOMS, PILLS, SHOTS ECT...

TELL HER THAT RAISING A KID IS NOT EASY. SURE WHEN THEY BABIES THEY CUTE BUT ONCE THEY TURN 1 THEN 2 THEN 3 THAT A REAL KID SHE GUNNA RAISE.

AS FOR YOUR SELF GOOD LUCK WITH ALL I HOPE U LEARN UR LESSON AND DONT HAVE ANYMORE KIDS UNTIL UR READY TAKE CARE ; ]