My younger sister is dating a controlling guy....?

Question

for the last 2 years. She is only 17, but he is "perfect in every way". When i found this out, (that he is perfect) i wanted to obviously meet him and see why he is perfect, but for some reason, i have not been able to say more than "hi" and "bye" to him without her interupting or him ignoring me. Basically though, he controls her, and I am getting sick of it.

She always yells at me if i even bring up the slightest hint that he has faults or anything wrong with him.

He doesn't want her to even look at other guys in any sense. She has no friends because "he didn't like them" and has gotten rid of anything she used to make herself feel good about herself physically (even her hair straightener). What can i do to make her realize this abusive relationship before something worse happens?

Answer 1

You need to talk to your sister and let her know that if he's going to get rid of everything that she has. Then he's not the right guy for her. Or just tell the guy to stop controlling her before things get worse.

Answer 2

Your sister is probably happy just to have a boyfriend and she is doing whatever to make him happy so she wont lose him....you should probably just sit her down and explain where your coming from  

Answer 3

i say, if you already talked to your sister, then i guess you cant do anything about it..you cant decide for someone else.

Just sit back,..be there for her. Let us just hope she realizes it soon.

Answer 4

Coming from someone who has been in a crappy relationship - it didn't matter to me what anyone else said or thought.  The more people would tell me I should leave, the more I pushed them away.  People don't see what's right in front of them until they are ready too.  It took me 5 years to get out of a terrible relationship - only when I was ready to see all that was bad.  It's going to be hard for you, but try and support her.  The more bad things you say about the guy, the more likely it is that your sister will push you away and feel like she can't confide in you.  I'm sure in time as she matures, she will see that this guy is totally wrong, but until then you just have to be there for her.