Name is Keri and I have been trying to have a baby for 9 years, and cant afford to adopt so im looking for?

Question

I would love nothing more than me and my husband to have a child to raise and love together...

Answer 1

Do you have the means to borrow the money needed?  I wish that it just required a loving family, and it didn't cost so much.  However, there are lawyers involved, so it does.

You should contact a lawyer to see what your options are.  With limited means, you cannot afford to be choosy about the age, s*x, and race of the child.  You may get lucky and get just what you want (my wife and I did).  Just keep in mind that age is just a number, race is just pigment in the skin, and s*x shouldn't matter.  All that SHOULD matter to you is that you want to raise and love the child.

Answer 2

I agree with Dacia, look into foster care adoptions.  There are so many children that need loving families and so few families that want to adopt this way.  It is free or inexpensive.  I am a foster parent and would have adopted any of the children I fostered.  Also, if you foster first, you will already know the children and know how you will get along as a family.  Although you won't know for sure that you will get a newborn through foster care, there is a chance and even if you don't, that doesn't mean you can't love a child that is a little older.  Think about it and check out adoptuskids.org for more information!

Answer 3

I do not totally agree with what quirky stated "If you can't afford to adopt then you really can't afford a child."  When you realize you are pregnant, you do not have to pay a lump sum of $10,000 (which is a really low number) up front to hospitals, doctors, etc.  However, with adoption, you do have to pay that lump sum.  It is true that one should have money saved for any circumstances, not just adopting a child.

There are several different options when it comes to adopting a child.  There are private agencies that one can contact (i.e., Bethany Christian Services, Catholic Charities, Children's Aid Society, etc.).  Depending upon whether you choose a domestic adoption (adopting a child from the US) or international adoption the fees will vary.  Some agencies also base the fee on your annual gross income.

If you know of a birthmother or birth couple, then you could do a private adoption where only a lawyer is involved.  Typically, you would have to pay for medical expenses, if the woman is not covered by insurance, and legal fees/court costs to facilitate the adoption.

One can also go through their local department of social services.   This option is the least expensive.  More than likely, you will have to go through the local county classes to become foster parents/pre-adoptive parents for the state.  Once approved you are put on a wating list.  However, through this process mostly older children are available since the state has to offer reunification services to the parent.

Some companies, like Target, Northrop Grumman, etc., offer adoption assistance to their employees.  There are also adoption loans and grants to those who qualify.

Whatever you choose, do not get discouraged and do not let other people discourage you.  Each of the organizations that I mentioned above have their own website.  Also, there are a lot of other adoption websites.  So, do your research.

Answer 4

If you can't afford to adopt then you really can't afford a child. If you want a child, SAVE money and adopt. Adoption can cost $5000 to $20,000. About what you pay for a car. Take out a loan. I mean, it is a human being. Your future children are worth whatever self discipline and work and effort you as a parent put into getting them. In nine years you could have SAVED $21,000 in an account if you had saved $200/month-and that is assuming you didn't make any return on your investment- and a child costs more than 200 dollars a month to raise.

Out of a million families wanting to adopt, why would someone choose you, who can't save money- instead of a family who made the same income and saved the amount of money required? I mean, yes, this is the hard reality, but being a parent has MANY harsh realities, like kids need financial stability.

You can do it, just do it the right way.

If I had a baby to give up for adoption, I would not go to the lowest bidder. I would choose a family that had saved money, had lone the legal footwork and was prepared to give the baby the best opportunity in life. Even mothers who give up their children want the BEST for their children. They could have chosen abortion...but they didn't.

Answer 5

You do realize you have to pay for the cost of hospitalization and legal fees. Good luck in finding a birth mom who doesn't require those.

Answer 6

sweetie is it u that cant have children if so i say see a donner or a close friend that can carry ur baby

Answer 7

Look into adoption through foster care . I don't think there's a fee . There are also some places of employment that help with reimbursement for adoption expenses

Foster Care Adoption - How to Complete an Adoption from Foster Care ...  

Learn the steps to a foster care adoption. ... help these children find loving homes and families through foster care adoption. ...adoption.about.com

Hope this helps