Nanny 911 is disgusting?

Question

i heard the most sad and ridiculous quote on that horrible disgusting show the other day.

this stupid uneducated nanny says to the mom "you are damaging you're child by treating them as an equal."

are you fudging kidding? thats the whole point of every relationship, because "all men are created equal."

we are all humans, even children, and they deserve to be talked to on an an equal level, not looked down upon...

does anyone here aggree?

Answer 1

Sorry, but there is no way I am treating my 17 month old the same way as I would treat my friends or grown family members. In that case, I should just let my 17 month old do as she pleases (just like adults do), and guess what will happen then? She will inevitably get hurt as well as grow up thinking she can continue to do as she pleases - resulting in her not respecting me as a parent.

Children are NOT equal to adults. Children are still learning, going through stages, still don't know or understand what is dangerous and why. (Just an example: you would let your grown friend walk alone next to a river, but would you let your toddler do so? Your friend knows what happens when you fall into the river. They understand the current, the depth, etc. They probably know how to swim. A toddler does not comprehend any of that. But if you treat them equal, then I guess that includes letting your toddler walk alone next to rivers, right? Yeah, real smart - if you want your toddler to DROWN).

Answer 2

i agree with you. i really don't like the nanny shows. they give the nation bad parenting advise. i can't watch them, it drives me crazy.

Answer 3

yup.. i agree wiv ya .

everyone shud b treated equal ..

Answer 4

haha ummm no, you'll see once you have kids ;)

Answer 5

Of course we are all humans but I don't need to have kids to understand this. You can never treat your children or any children as equal. They do not know how to understand the things that us adults tell them. If we tell them "No you can't do that" THey will ask "why". They don't even know the meaning of listening, of being mature enough to do what they want. If the nanny is there it's because she knows what she's doing. If when I have my baby and I let my baby do what he/she wants then that means I'm not being a  good parent. That means that I can damage my child by letting them think that they can do what they want when they want.

So no I do not agree with you. How can you treat your child equal to yourself or to anyone else that is an adult? How will you have rules for your child if you will let them do what they want if they are the same as yourself? I would rethink and concentrate on what you have said about treating your future to be children in the long run. You will understand better when you have children.

Answer 6

You can not treat a child the same as an adult. That is just asking for trouble. Children need to know the parent is the boss and should be respected, not equal to them.

Answer 7

From your question alone I would venture to guess that you are not a parent and have therefore take the woman's comment out of context. While the methods of that woman aren't for everyone there is some truth in her statement.

As humans beings age they gain a certain level of autonomy, however as children we are not granted this right, as a lack of knowledge and experience leaves use unable to care for and make wise decisions for ourselves. Outside of basic human rights each should have from birth (ie. the right to food, shelter, education, life, racial and gender equality, liberty and freedom of expression), no one is entitled to much else in this world. Equality in the sense of power is guarenteed to nobody. In a Boss-employee relationship the boss will always have the final say. In a Law-Citizen relationship the law will determine what the citizen is allowed to do.

In a parent-child relationship, a child is not an equal. Their decisions, opinions, and desires are not and should not be considered to have equal weight or bearing that a parents does. For example, my two year old is of the opinion that she should be able to eat cookies all day but as this would be detrimental to her health, I tell her no, because as her mother her opinion does not have equal standing with mine. This is not a matter of looking down on her because of her age, but rather acting as a responsible parent should.

In the reverse a parent who would let their child eat cookies all day is actually causing "damage" to that child by not only healthwise (possible tooth decay, childhood obesity, improper diet, etc.) but also mentally by re-enforcing the false concept that they the child are 1. capable of autonomy- which could later result in a poor decision resulting in harm  and 2. are on equal footing with adults- which could result in problems with authority (in school, with the law, etc).

Next time I suggest looking at the context that the statement was made in. . . it might give you a bit more perspective.

Answer 8

shes only out to make a fortune. i wouldnt let her near my kids. i agree with you.

Answer 9

it depends on how she was meaning it. If she meant that mom was letting the child run the house, not enforcing any rules, not acting like the child's mom in other words, then I think it was completely justified and not sick at all.

If she was meaning that the mother shouldn't be treating the child with respect and dignity then yes it is wrong but I can't see that happening...

Most of the shows that I have seen show parents who absolutely have no idea how to raise children and just let them run wild without any consistency, boundaries, or respect. If a parent is treating their child how they would treat a friend (for instance it would be wierd for a friend to try and enforce a bedtime on another friend or make them eat good food, or make them do their homework) then yeah I think the parent needs to stop treating them as an "equal" in that regards. That being said, all people should treat everyone else as an equal in regards to respect, dignity, and respecting basic human emotions and rights.

Answer 10

children are not equal. they are not fully developed, their brains are still developing. they cannot make a proper judgement on situations as they are too young to understand what the consequences may be. As a parent it is your job to raise them in a way that as growing adults they become your equal

Answer 11

Kids deserve dignity and respect, but they are NOT equals

equal means they have the same rights as anyone in the house

"go to bed" says mom

"no thank you, im staying up till 3am to watch p**n" says kid

"dont run into traffic" says dad

"sorry dad, its how I roll"

would you honestly allow this?

KIDS DO NOT KNOW WHAT IS BEST FOR THEM, they can not learn how to function properly in society unless someone holds their hands and teaches them, and you can't do that as an equal....

equals can say no, equals can argue, equals have input

kids need direction

kids need authority

no parent has authority so long as the child can see no consequence, and there's no consequence if you are equals.

Think of it like this

you're doing a bad job at work

your boss can choose to be your equal and hope that you respond the way he likes...you may you may not, if you disagree with what he says, you almost certainly won't

or your boss can say

"this is the way I want it done, get it done, and do it the way I want it done if you want to keep your job"

chances are now very good, you'll do it the right way

because you and your boss are NOT equals

you respond because there is a fear of consequence...

children who don't learn this don't function properly, especially in school, and are therefore damaged

I agree with the nanny 100%

Answer 12

No actually, the sorry excuses for parents on that show are disgusting.

Children are not equal to parents.  Sure, they have equal rights, but ultimately there is a hierarchy in a family, and parents should be at the top, PARENTING.

I'm guessing you don't have kids.

Answer 13

well of course i agree but she ment teaching the same way like you can get most girls to read a book and sit in a circle and talk about it but with guys you have to like explain it better becuse well we are all diffrent and guys its a fact that they are stupid there is research out there and it says there are more girls becuse guys dont have the smarts to have a sence of danger she ment that she was treating her kids like they were one person and you know there not and every one needs to be treated diffrent depending on needs but we are equal but diffrent