Nanny advise?

Question

I just took a job 5 weeks ago as a live in nanny for two kids ages 8,10.Mom stays out of town most of the time but the kids call her on her cell phone complaining if they dont get what they want and she insists they have whatever they want.They are very spoiled, disrespectful, run off and will not listen to anything.They are constantly making a mess in the kitchen, leaving the refridg open and leaving their opened mess everywhere.I spend most of my time picking up after them because mom doesnt want them to have chores or have to pick up after themselves.I am paid pretty good, but I need some advise to handle these two.Also the mom says none of her previous nannies have ever shut their bedroom door.I shut it when I am sleeping and when I leave the room as I feel it is my private space.The mom said she has an open door policy for her kids and only shuts her door when her boyfriend is in town.She does not understand how I could hear a prowler at night with my door shut.What do you think?

Answer 1

I don't think it's a big deal because it's just a door. Maybe you could like close it far but not all the way....idk just don't worry

Answer 2

I'm a live out nanny here in NYC. I suggest you find a new job ASAP!!! It sounds like a burn out position. You have every right to your privacy when your off!! Please find another job. Here are some websites to help you.

www.4nannies.com/

www.americannannyjobs.com

Answer 3

I think she's a looney that's what I think LOL

I think I would stand my ground on the closed door issue. I would also try and make up some set rules and consequences for the kids and some chores and set up a reward program. Maybe if they know there is a reward in it if they are good and do their chores then they won't complain to their mother.

You could do a marble jar where you draw a goal line on the jar and when they do a chore, clean up after themselves or do as they are told right away, they get a marble in the jar. Once they build up enough marbles that they reach the goal line, they get a reward.

The mom might not be so quick to complain if she sees her kids happily doing these things rather than complaining.