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OK I'm 19 years old and i have a fiance and a daughter who is about to turn 2 years old, anyway we used to have an apartment but lost it because i couldn't pay the rent due to me getting fired from my old job because my old car wouldn't start. I now have a different job but i live with my mom and she and our daughter live with her mom. We are tired of not being with each other and I want to join the military just so we will be able to have housing,food,benefits etc.. but I'm also afraid of being away from them for a very long time what should I do???

Answer 1

i know ur tired of not bein w/ each other but if u join the military then..well...ull still end up bein away from then, for even longer too. i personally dont think that u should join, its also dangerous scary, i think that u should try to get a different job, i know its hard though, but im sure that theres another way u could get money though, but lifes not easy. at least u can still c ur fiance/ daughter sumtimes right? if youo join the military, then ur taking a big risk were u can b seriously hurt, and theres a chance of ur daughter and fiance never bein able to c u again...

Answer 2

I think JT is right.  I've been in for almost 9 years now, and yea, it takes me away from home sometimes, but my family is taken care of, and that's what's important to me.

Answer 3

You join the military to serve your country, not because you can't make it in society. Go out and get yourself a job. I mean, the military isn't right for you. You hate being apart, why sign up for a job that's going to REQUIRE you to be apart? Why sign up for a job that's going to have you put the military before your family?

Get yourself a job, man. Take care of your family.  

Answer 4

as a single parent you cannot enlist into any Active Duty Branch.  you would need court documentation proving you did not have any custody of your child, or you would need to get married.

you WILL be apart through basic training and schooling.. at least six months.   you WILL deploy..anywhere form 4-12 months at a time.  

the military should not be used as a crutch or last resort to fix your financial woes.  

Answer 5

Man-up!!!  Do what you have to do to provide for your family!!!

Answer 6

I'm not trying to be harsh, funny or type for points.

The military is not a place to run into for housing, food, benefits, etc.  Those are entitlements to service and good conduct.  They can be taken away, curtailed, not available in your posting or delayed.  Then what?

You should join the military to defend the nation, period.  Once you have been taught to do that and meet the standard, THEN you and your family will be afforded housing, food, benefits, etc.  Knowing that then answers your last statement about being away from them for a very long time because yes, in each branch except possibly the coast guard, you could be and will be away from them for a very long time.

JT posted for you to "MAN UP".  Please MAN UP for the right reasons because an immature decision could lead to a soldier, sailor, airman or marine in some serious financial and mental difficulties, and you are too young for that now.  If you can live without your fiance and 2 year old for ONE YEAR without them receiving much support, then join the military for the right reasons.  If not, then seek employment elsewhere.

Good luck.

Answer 7

If you feel the Armed Forces will help provide for your family, as well as put you on the right track for the rest of your life, what the h**l, do it young blood.

As for what service to join, that is for you to decide. Everyone will direct you to the branch of their choice, when you are the one thats going to be serving. I would recommend Marines due to shorter overseas tours, but the Army does give good bonuses.

Best of luck.