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I'm a working mother with 3 1/2 years old son, who is hyperactive. I have not much time to spent with him. Lately it's been really hard to handle him and his tantarum.......He just screams loudly for no reason and i could see he is stressed as well. What shall i do? He refuses to follow instruction and it's really makes me going crazie.

Answer 1

Make time for him, your child should be your #1 priority, not work. If you are a single mom and cant give up working, maybe take a night job while he is sleeping, and find someone to be there at night with him. He really needs you, especially if he is actually hyperactive. It sounds like the screaming is to get attention from you. The tantrum's could be fromthat as well, or they could be just 3 year old fits, or a hyper thing.

Answer 2

take outside. make him run in the yard or take him the park...

Answer 3

take him to a doctor if it's of concern.  I'm not sure if it's too soon to tell but he could have some sort of disorder.  if it's just a regular child tantrum, try sitting him in a corner for about 3 minutes...if he leaves, put him back but ignore him...eventually he'll stay there knowing he has no choice...

Answer 4

If you think this behavior is bad now, just wait until he is a neglected teenager.  If you've only got one child - how could you not have time for him???

He is crying out for attention (from your Email I have to assume there's no dad in the picture?).  Surely you have weekends off.  Ask him what he would like to do on (ie: Sunday), and then do it.  Take him to the zoo, or to an amazing playground.  

Hopefully you'll come up with an activity that you can both get excited about.

Working mother of two young children.

Answer 5

make time to spend with him. its your responsibility to be a good parent first, everything else comes second

Answer 6

When you can take him to a park, so he can run and               jump. Plus he won't be so hyper when you go home.

Answer 7

He isn't "hyperactive" he is a 3 1/2 year old CHILD.  He's quite normal for a child his age actually.  What you should do is spend more time with him.  ignore the tantrums, discipline him, (time outs sending him to his room when he behaves in appropriately).

Answer 8

God what is wrong with this world?  Don't medicate your son or yourself.  Your a normal over woked mom who's kid missess her and is doing everything in his power to get your attention.  Look with in for some answers that may help you.  Is he getting a three oclock snack to help his tummy get through tell dinner?  Has he had enough sleep at night, 12 hours for a little one?  And what is his stability like?  Is the house and car messy or clean (spot clean is absured, picked up and no food lying around is great)?  And what are your rules and disapline like?  Does he know the rules,  what to expect if the rule is broken, and be honest, do you follow through with the consequince?  For him try this:

Rules: 1.  Pick up your things or they become mine for three days(deal with the tempertampers for the next 24 hours and he will become a charming young man who picks up his stuff when asked to)

2.  Use indoor voice and body control or you need to go to your room until you can. (he may be out in two to three seconds and right back in his room in less than a minute until he gets it under control, but he can do it)

3.  If he continuse to yell, scream, through tempertantrume and refuses to go to his room,(don't remove him) remove yourself.  Let him know he may knock on your door when he thinks he can control himself.  You may be getting up and going a couple of thimes, but he'll get it.

Start with three small rules and stick to them like glue and they will follow you outside of your home.  Kids especially younger ones can't handle or remember to many rules but they give they child stability because they know what is expected.  What ever rules are implemented don't go over three days for discipline.  Kids can't handle it.  More then that and they forget what they got in trouble for and they stop caring.  Try to take five minutes out just for him.  He'll appreciate you so much for this.  Get a buzz word to help you on days that you need him to move quickly.  Like speedy-bee.  "Put your pants on, speedy-bee"  lets him know things are seriuose and you guys are in a hurry.  He'll feel good because you guys have a secrect code word.  Don't abbuse this one becuase it really is a fantastic tool.

As for you, breath.  I know this answer is long and I'm sorry, just I've been where you are.  Give yourself a pat on the back at how good of a job you're doing.  Stick to your rules and consiquecis and make your life easier.  And remember when he's acting up he's trying to tell you something just like he did when he was a baby.  Just cause he can speak he doesn't know how to articulate "Mommy I love you and miss you."  So that could be one of the number one things he's telling you with his behaver.  You don't have to embrace it but knowing that in his way he wants to say he wants to spend time with his number one mom can make you feel pretty good!!!!

Answer 9

If he is hyperactive, physically stimulate him. If you don't have much time to spend with him, fill up that time with exciting activities. Go down to the park and throw a ball around, go for a bike ride, do something that will get his mind off boredom.