Need Some Advice From Some Parents

Question

I want the new blue psp but my dad doesn't want me to get it because he thinks I don't do things that are good for me. Like read, play the piano/guiter. Those are the things he wants me to do. I asked my mom that if she takes the psp every morning and not give it to me until im done with those things that take 30 min, like read, play guiter and piano ea for 30 min. Do you think that is a good idea. My mom said yes but i don't know if my dad will like this. Do you think it's a goodidea. PS. If i don't do one of these things then I can't use the psp the next day. I came up with the idea. So feel free to tell me what you think!

Answer 1

That sounds fair. Do you already have other video game consoles though? If you do, your father probably doesn't want to buy you yet another one. I see so many kids who have tons of these expensive consoles everywhere.

Your reasoning is sound, and it seems like a good plan. Good luck!

Answer 2

I think it's a fair idea and would give you the opportunity to do the things he wants you to do.  HOWEVER, his other thought might be that you're going to whine and fuss about it and still not read, play guitar, etc. I can hear it now, "Please, just one psp and then I'll read, do my homework, etc.".

I think another thing you should ABSOLUTELY add to this negotiation is that you will prove in advance that you can and will do these things you're supposed to.  Tell him that for two weeks straight you will do xyz without a fuss and without being reminded.  If you can prove you can do that, then you can have the psp (what is that anyway?)

This is what I'd ask my son to do if he were your age (he's only 2), and if you come up with this idea to your dad (like you did the other idea), I think he'd be impressed with your maturity.  I'd also stop pestering him about it - it's probably driving him crazy.

If he says no, tell him that you're going to go ahead and do all those things anyway - read, homework, piano, etc. prior to doing whatever other fun activity you are currently doing - and you'll do it even if you don't get the psp.  That will be impressive and maybe you'll get it for Christmas as a surprise.

Answer 3

Sounds like you are on the right track of trying to logically and calmly address your dad's concerns.  That is the main thing to do when dealing with your parents.  I think it seems fairly workable, not really knowing how things go on at your house.

Your dad may just not want to spend the money on it right now, and this was the excuse he gave you.  Or maybe he doesn't want you to spend all your spare time on it, as well as meeting these requirements.  You might consider a limitation on its use even if you do all of these things you listed.  And it may be he wants to get it for you for Christmas or something, so he won't get it now...

Just remain calm and respectful, doing what you are supposed to be doing, even if he does say no to this idea.  Another month of being calm and respectful (no nagging) may sway him.

Good luck.

Answer 4

wow yor parents r g*y

i gess its an ok deal

but yor parents shud really let u be u and let u do wat u want to do not wat they want u to do

Answer 5

I think your idea is great.  Just monitor your time wisely, do not spend hours on the PSP. I would only spend maybe an 1 hr or 1 hr and 30 min. on the PSP.

Answer 6

Sounds like a fair idea... but I am willing to bet you won't be that cooperative when the PSP is right there.

Answer 7

I think your suggestion shows that you are mature and capable of sticking to the arrangement.  I also feel that this could be a great opportunity for you to prove yourself to your parents.  However, it is likely that your Dad isn't afraid of you not completing the tasks he wants but rather wants to persuade you to enjoy them by not giving you an alternative option that he feels is worthless.  If you have the PSP to look forward to then the piano or other hobby will become a chore and he doesn't want that.

What he doesn't realize is that he probably should have started these things earlier in your life.  You are obviously too mature now to be coerced into a hobby that you do not enjoy.  Of course that doesn't mean that you are not capable to learn that there are new things you might enjoy. Actually one is never to old to become interested in a new hobby.  Your Dad is trying to expose you to things hoping you'll realize that you have a connection to something other than mindless video games.

Video games can actually be beneficial when played at a minimum since they develop hand eye coordination and thinking skills.  There is actually scientific research that supports this claim.  I would have to say that I do think your idea is a good one as long as you keep an open mind about the hobbies your Dad wants to expose you to.