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Question

What type of gift would you get a caseworker who has been a tremendous support in helping you with the adoption process. The child has not been adopted yet; and the paperwork is not complete, however, hubby and I will meet the child in a week and the child's worker for the first time. We have a stuff animal for the little girl... but, I'm having the darnest time trying to come up with a gift for a male caseworker. Please help! Mature suggestions, please. Thanks!

Answer 1

Caseworkers don't make much money so maybe it would be a nice treat for them to get a gift certificate to a nice restaurant.

Answer 2

perhaps you could buy a really nice photo frame, and when you meet your new child, take a photo of the new family, and write a note on the back of the photo.

I think it is sentimental, and truthful.

goodluck

and congratulations on adopting

Answer 3

I wouldnt buy anything until it was all final as it doesnt look too good.

I think a Thank You card is appropriate but if you wanted to you could buy him a voucher for a clothes shop maybe

Good Luck

Answer 4

I work for the state of California, and we are not allowed to accept gifts of any kind.

What is most appreciated....... is getting a heart-felt letter thanking me for my services.

Save embarrassment on your part and on the caseworkers part, and don't try and give him a gift.

It is a very nice jester, but definitely against the rules.

Answer 5

It might make it difficult for him to accept a gift before the adoption process goes through. You may want to give him a card that you have written with how thankful you feel - at this time. Later on, something small for his office might be a good idea. Say, a small sketch of the child, a *nice* pen and holder, a leather journal/diary etc. You can also (as some others have mentioned) give him a gift card for a restaurant, but be careful that it's a restaurant that he will enjoy going to - you should consider whether he eats out at all, the type of food he eats (food restrictions due to religion or beliefs) etc. You can also chat about his hobbies and see if you can't find something he would like to have for his hobby. But again, be careful here since if he is an enthusiast in something, you may end up giving him something he doesn't need/can't use.

My personal take is that gift cards can become very impersonal and people who help children usually love to get to know the family and child. A sketch of the child is a nice memento that shows your appreciation for his help and it connects more.

And be very careful of the timing - you don't want him getting in trouble with conflict of interest. Also, keep the gift small to avoid the same problem.

Answer 6

Yes, after finalized it would be very nice to get a gift for him. The above suggestions are great ideas. Gift Cards are wonderful so he can use it for what he wishes. I agree with everyone else you should not get him anything just yet.

Answer 7

I think I would give a gift card to a nice restaurant.

Answer 8

I did this twice and you should not give the case worker anything until everything is finalized. It could be misconstrued as a bribe. after the adoption is approved you may buy him a gift. you should ask him if he has hobbies like fishing or golf or what ever then get him a small gift like a fishing reel of some golf balls etc. Good luck on the adoption i hope things work out for you as good as they did for us.

Answer 9

I really don't think a gift at this stage for the caseworker would be appropriate.  Once the adoption is finalized, some sort of thank you would be fine, but not now.  Don't get overexcited...  but good luck to you~