Need a serious dream interpretation. No crackpot joke answers please!?

Question

I have a recurring dream in which my deceased boyfriend comes to my door and asks me why I didn't wait for him, that he wasn't really dead, and will I leave with him. Always in the dream my life mirrors my actual life, married with a child, living in the house we are in currently. What could this possibly mean? I know he's dead. I found him! Is this guilt? What?

Answer 1

Maybe like you said it just "mirrors" your actual life. It might be your emotions about your boyfriend and his death that you release in your dreams. Kind of like a subconcious you could say. So it might not actually have any special inner meaning but just the fact that you miss your boyfriend or other issues dealing with his death. Do you tend to  bottle up these kinds of emotions in real life? If so, thats possibly one reason why you have these recurring dreams.

Answer 2

Wow.

I think maybe you're wishing he's not dead... I don't know...

Or, he's telling you that you buried him too soon; he wasn't really dead when you found him.

(Second one not too likely)

Answer 3

If you watch those TV shows on Tv, Thats terrible. those ghost storys. you know. Mabey your boyfriend ( Deceased ) Is trying to connect with you in the dead as scary as that is. Even as someone who is dead, he wasnt ready to let go of you so He clinged his soul into your mind. As weird as that sounds. I dont tihnk its guilt unless you killed him, but if you DIDNT love him mabey your memories are haunting you from your past, and your upset that you pretended to love him, but you didnt. NOT SAYING THATS THE CASE. I belive the dead sometimes dont fully leave. And he just wants to still be with you dead or alive.

His undead concience isnt leting him let go or dead concience if there is one . . .

Answer 4

Wow thats pretty deep. When we mourn in life we go through stages, and guilty is one of those stages. When my cuz and her husband were killed in a car wreck, I had dreams about the funeral, that they came back for awhile just to hang out with us, it was really weird.  Sounds like you have some issues. Maybe you should see a therpist...it doesn't mean ur crazy just that you need to talk things out. It helped me.

Answer 5

I think you may be subconsciously questioning your home life right now... almost like you are looking for an escape... You are trying to see if you would have been as happy with him(or happier) than you are now in the marriage you are in.  that whole "grass is always greener" theory...

Answer 6

ok... well.. if he's asking you question's.. answer him back... if he's talking to you.. he loves you.. and i believe love can be eternal.....but anyways.. talk to him... when you have the time or whenever... talk to him.. i know it might sound crazy and all.. but do it.. tell him why.. tell him how you feel about everything... like pray first... i don't know what your religion is but whatever you believe in pray.... then talk to him.. like i said tell him why.. tell him how u feel...tell him you did not know he wasn't dead.. tell him if you did know you what have done everything an anything possible to save him.. tell him...yes sometimes it can be guilt.. but he can also be talking to you...you tell him whats up.. try to make him understand.. don't talk to him like if he's weird or your scared or anything.. you be brave and tell him... talk to him in the dream to...have a conversation wit him and tell him why he's trying to talk to you.. what is it that he needs and what he wants... and if you have a child... tell him that you need to raise your child... your a mother... and if you love him... if that was your love you tell him that he's your eternal love.. tell  him to wait for you up there.. that you will come to him...that this is akward what is happening.. and all ... but if you don't have child and you don't know what to do... then its your decision if you go with him.. the only thing i tell you is that don't be stupid.. and analyze everything.. don't make a decision that you regret... live your life.. and tell him to wait for you.. that times goes by fast and you will be with him.. but that to please understand you ... and that to go in peace... that he can come and visit you in dreams when he wants .. that you still can have dreams.. and that thats the way you guys can be together.. and have time for each other until it is your time to go ... be honest with him.. and talk to him.. just be brave... and don't have fear...

Answer 7

It sounds like you feel guilty for having moved on with your life, like you betrayed him somehow.

These feelings do not reflect reality - you have done nothing wrong - and you may wish to see a therapist for help in dealing with them and getting past them.

Answer 8

It sounds like you may feel a little guilty about having moved on, but you shouldn't.  Moving on doesn't mean you've forgotten him, which is pretty obvious in your case.  Keep his memory in a special place in your heart and keep moving on with life.  If he loved you, he would want you to be happy.

Answer 9

you are wanting to be back with him, you want him to be alive again it was the same with my Nana about a week after she died she kept coming into my room and asking how the family was and if my mum was okay, this was not a dream it was real life because she told me things my mum never told me, like my mums middle name.

Answer 10

Unfortunetly im all outta crack, and pot. So i got nothing. But however there is insufient information.

Answer 11

Your first guess is probably the right one, do a barrel roll!

Answer 12

guilt..

or mayby he's just bored and decided to mess around with you..

Answer 13

it could be wishful thinking that he was still alive or the fact that you think about him so much. however dreams are that DMT and the pineal gland are our way to alternate universes and any spiritual happenings. did you know that Buddhist believe in reincarnateion? they believe that it takes 49 days for the body and mind to reincarnat. ironically it also takes 49 days for the pineal gland and gender to form on a fetus. try meditating. you should find out exactly how first. you will realize why you are having the dreams on your own.

Answer 14

One of the stages of grief is acceptance.  Could it be that in your subconscious you still don't want to accept he's really gone.  You may feeling guilt because you've gone on with your life and feel that somehow your betraying him by doing so?  Read up on articles about the 5 stages of grief and see if it will help your dreams stop.

Answer 15

He's trying to kill you from the grave. Next time sleep with a gun.

Answer 16

No. you're just falling asleep thinking about him and it goes into your dream. You dreaming something that you want. For him to be alive.

Answer 17

Perhaps it's guilt, just remember that once he passed you had to continue your life.  If you had a very serious relationship with your deceased boyfriend, you may find you'll never completely let him go.

Answer 18

i think you need to let go: maybe by writing it all out. it could help you

ur holding all your feelings inside.

and im sooo sorry for what must of happened to u. that must hav been really hard. and i hope it gets better

:)

Answer 19

Do you feel as though you didn't finish something before his death? It's seems like it's trying to say that you (think you) ended something quicker than its due date and you miss him.

So my guess...

1) guilt

2) loose ends/missing him

3) something else I have no clue about...

Answer 20

To be honest you are mostly likely to know what this means better than anyone else because we do not have all the details.

However, it definitely does seem to be reflecting guilt on your behalf. And also because you are in the same place in your dream as in real life, it may indicate that you are subconsciously acknowledging that you need to move on in regards to his death. You may not have got over it properly to begin with.

Best wishes, and I hope I offered some insight.

P.S Most dreams DO reflect reality and DO have meaning if you are willing to find out what your body is trying to tell you.

Answer 21

You wonder if your life would be similar if he had survived and you two married. House, kids, etc. I think you are happy with your current life, but you have regrets and a bit of guilt because your thought that happiness was going to be with him.

Answer 22

You haven't let go and nor has he .. Its not a bad thing and you shouldn't feel so guilty .. He still loves you and you still probably love him awhole lot

Answer 23

(insert crackpot joke answer here)

Answer 24

it could mean that he is trying to send you a message. but it could also be your subconcious trying to tell you that you didnt wait long enough or that you will never love another person like him. you may want to find a dream interpreator though for further help. it could be a message from your sub concious or from your deceased boyfriend.

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