Need advice, mother vs daughter & husband?

Question

I recently moved in with my daughter, her husband & 2 kids as I broke up with my partner & have nowhere else to go. I asked them if I could stay with them and as payment (I am not working) I would look after their baby girl age 17months & would take care of the housekeeping. But it may now seem as if I have become their maid as I do most of the cooking, cleaning washing & once a week I have to babysit as well. I also have an 8yr old grandson. My daughter is now giving me grief saying that they cant afford certain things since I moved in as the amount of sugar, coffee, eggs etc. we used every month has more than doubled since I moved in. Although I dont see it this way as I use whatever in the house for the house only. Financially they are battling a bit. Also they say I should follow their rules concerning raising the kids and that I shouldn't interfere & that I have to go along with their rules & regulations but I dont always agree with the way they raise their kids.

Answer 1

I'd get a job and move out... It is their life and what they want to do. If you don't agree it's really too bad.

Honestly if my MIL moved in to help me out saying she'd do the housework and watch the kids then I'd expect her to do the house work and watch the kids not lecture me about my parenting skills. You didn't raise your children and from my own experience my MIL tries to tell me what to do after having nothing to do with my husband... It's very annoying and you have no right to say what you think at that point.

Fact of the matter is you're in their home and it's their rules if you don't agree you can go else where.

They might be using you but you're using them too. You're living in their house for free while they work their asses off. They deserve time away from the kids every week and so what if he sits infront of the tv? I know my hubby works 12 hrs when he gets home all he wants is to sit down and do nothing for awhile.

I think you either need to move out or take it ... I'm not trying to be nasty but you need to realize that you have no right to say what they do at all and if you don't like it that's just too bad. You can try telling them that you don't like it and they'll tell you to mind your own business which is what you should be doing.