Need advice. Asap. What do I do?

Question

My boyfriend of three years wants to join the army and it's very important to him. I want to support him but I'm having such a hard time coping with this. I'm scared of being apart from him for so long and I'm scared of the risks involved with him. The thought scares me. I want to be supportive so how do I do this? Is there anyone out there who has someone in the military who can give me some advice? Any alternatives? Please, let me know.

Answer 1

Try telling him how you feel. I know, its the answer that you'd thought you'd get from everyone, but its the best solution there is.

Answer 2

Honestly, I went through the same type of thing. I grew up in a military home and I really didnt feel like doing it again. My husband told me though randomly one day that he always wanted to join but everyone always tried to stop him. His parents...his ex. Now, as I have grown and matured with him and myself I realize its not my job to be his mother or to stop his passions. He has supported me in all my whims. Even some that I could sense he wasnt a fan of. He supported me though and he was the first and only person to never stop me from being me.

So I told him, I didnt want him to join because I would miss him too much and there is no turning back, but I will always support him, and if this is what he wants to do then I will have his back 100%.

  Once he told me he wanted to go then that was the end of it. Its very tough...I wont sugar code it, but don't hold him back. Part of loving someone is allowing and accepting them to do things that you may not like.

  Also be honest now, cause once he goes to basic there is no turning back. That wont be fair to you or him. God Bless

ps like the previous poster said. Get Married if he decides to go in because being his girlfriend, even in name only, isnt as...tolerated I guess is the best word. Research it but I agree definately get married

Answer 3

The feelings that you have for your man seems to be strong. I was 19 when i enlisted in the army. I did have a girlfriend and really missed her when i had to go to vietnam. While i was in Nam, she would write me, which i really thought was great. Well, when i returned home, i married her. Now it has been 36 years and my love for her is even stronger. What i am trying to say ,is let your man know you feel about him and by almeans be TRUE for him.

Answer 4

First advice is you two need to get married.

Mainly because once he is enlisted they frown upon bf/gf's. You will not share any benefits with him, nor will you see him more than MAYBE 30 days a year at best.

The Army also has ONE-YEAR Deployments and take a wild guess where they go straight to.

The Air Force is the best branch for family. The Navy and Coast Guard are next, but the Navy spends ALOT of time out to sea, usually around 6 months in a deployment, with several weeks/months of out 3 weeks in one week, out 5 weeks, in 2 weeks, and a few stay on ship for 3 nights a week.

Best bet AIR FORCE, or none at all.

Answer 5

Get over it!

Answer 6

Try reinstalling Windows.  That should fix it.

Answer 7

see if he could be there just for a little bit. or go to boot camp and see if the army is REALLY what he wants to do. Or see if he could be someone who doesnt have risks in their job, like my brother's ex-girlfriend. She is a flute player to help cheer up troops in the marine core. Anyways, talk to him about that and if he goes, send him care packages and letters, Ash (brother's ex) loved that.