Need advice from parents of twins/multiples.?

Question

My identical twin boys are in kindergarten and they are in the same class. We just moved and they are in a new school. They are having discipline problems in this school that they didn't have before. They are being very disrespectful in school and I am grounding them from T.V./video games when they misbehave in school. I have parent teacher conferences next week and I think the teacher is going to ask me to seperate them. I don't think that it would be good for them to be seperated right now as they really get emotional when seperated. As parents of twins or multiples what is your experience with school? Together or seperate what works better?

Thanks

Answer 1

I don't have kids, but I think I can help.

I can remember, it's awkward to have a sibling in class with you.......and to take the edge off you joke around. But talk to them, if there is something wrong!!

Answer 2

My twin sister and I were separated in 1st grade because my she had grown too dependent on me.  I would not separate them after this move however, because they are relying on one another for emotional and social support.  It seems as if this move has been a little traumatic for the boys if they are acting out in this way.  You may need to involve yourself more heavily in the school day.  Ask the teacher if you can come in for story time and read or offer to assist in the classroom.  Don't let the teacher pressure you or the boys into a situation that may make them more uncomfortable.

Answer 3

mine are having their second year apart this year. It is actually great. They get some time apart that they don't get at home. It is worth a try and would be good for them to not be so dependant on each other.

Answer 4

well im a twin and i think they cant be seperated they need each other in the same class i was in a differnt class and i HATED it

good luck

Answer 5

I have twin boys who you can not pull apart. Try using separation as a punishment. If they act up in school, separate them if u can.  At home or have them in different classes for a while.  I know not all school can let you do this.

Answer 6

I have twin boys and what we did is we kept them together for the first year of preschool and then in the second year of preschool we separated them to see how it would go. They had always been real close too. They did fine and their rooms were across the hall from one another. Our pediatrician had recommended separating them and that was why we tried it. When they went to Kindergarten we requested they be separated and they have been separated ever since.

Now they are 13 years old and in middle school and actually they share a couple of the same classes because in 7th grade you go to a different teacher for every subject.

I really feel separating is the best thing for them for a few reasons.

#1. They are individuals and having their own teacher and class gives them something to be proud of as an individual.

#2. There is less chance of a teacher comparing them or mixing them up which can be frustrating to them as they get older.

#3. They are not distracted by each other

#4. They make some of their own friends giving them confidence and self esteem and something of their own

#5. If one is doing better than the other it's not as noticeable when they are separated.

#6. They learn to develop skills that they might normally depend on the other twin for...for example if one is more outgoing and one is shy, the shy one is less likely to open up while his outgoing twin is there.

good luck  and hope this helps :)