Need advice on how to handle gf's mom?

Question

im 23 and i have a girlfriend whose 19 and been with her for 2 months now. I was at her place last week and and when i was taking a shower after a swim in her pool her mom walks into the bath room (I take it by accident) and gets a full coverage of me completely naked! She gave a brief glance then walked out without saying anything. The look she gave was dirty one more like what you would give your partner in bed. I just pretended it was no big deal. the other day i was in my trunks ready for a swim and her mom came back from work and when she (gf) was getting changed her mom came up from behind and squeezed my butt cheek and said her daughter is a lucky girl!. To be honest i don't know to be flattered or be freaked!! They are otherwise nice ppl and with a lavish lifestyle (her mom's a highly paid lawyer i think). The mother is supportive of our relationship but however my gf is inseparable form her mom and would be offended if i tell bout her behaviour.

her mom isnt bad looking at all, when with her daughter they look more like sisters although the mom is in her early 40s i believe. It has come to me that my gf's parents have separated 12 months ago and she lives alone with her mom now...

the thing that strikes me is it "normal" for a recently divorced mother to behave like this? Should i just let all this pass or do something about it? how would I approach her mother regarding this if I should approach her about this?

I have no interest in the mother.

Answer 1

Hmm..

To me, I think I'd let this one go.  I don't know if her Mom is lonely and hurting from the divorce, and possibly having some emotional issues right now, or if she's just a freak.  You've only been with your girlfriend for two months, though, so I really don't feel that it would be beneficial to ANYONE involved if you said something to your girlfriend about this.

That being said, if any other advances happen on the mother's part, I'd speak up.  Say something to the mother, first.  When she grabs you, or compliments you sexually, say "Look, I'm really not comfortable with this.." and walk away.  Then, if it happens again, I'd mention something to your girlfriend.  Doing something about it right now would only hurt and insult your girlfriend in my opinion.  It would also cause problems between either her and her mother, or her and you -- or possibly both.

Good luck.

Answer 2

make it very clear to her that your not interested in her. she obviously wants you. if you does something like that again then i suggest you tell her that its not on and tell your girlfriend.  

Answer 3

You need to ask the mother nicely to stop fondling you and making comments to you. If she persists then you need to tell your girlfriend. That is very wrong of her mother to act like that!

~MLF~

Answer 4

Just let her do whatever it is she is doing (The Mom).  She will stop when you don't reciprocate.  She is testing your loyalty to her daughter and also getting a lift from touching you.  It is harmless.  Dont say a word to your girlfriend.  You will get tossed under the bus when you bring it up.  It is never worth it when you critisize or complain about a girl's mom.  It's a bond that should not be disturbed.  Leave it alone....it will stop eventually.

Answer 5

her mom is just a freak and wants to join in and just you should be flattered and scared ut you should ask you girlfriend if it is a big deal to your her and if not feel flattered because you can get mother and daughter at the same time you are a LUCKY Guy