Need advise for my slow learner son?

Question

I have my second son who is 11yrs old and is diagnosed by his school as a slow learner. My son can speak very well, expressess very well but can't read and write properly. He cant even doa primary one work. I am very down and going thru a lot of mental torure as i feel responsible to this and nowadys his thorwing a lot of temper bcos he doesn't have friends and have not been attending school for the past one year. I am seeking help to get hima tutor with special ed to be tolerant and to guide him properly. He is also getting violent with his little sister as he feels i do not love him, its difficult to interact with him as he donesnt understand what i am trying to tell . I need help can someone recommend a good tutor for him to guide and take care of him.

Answer 1

Your first step is to turn to his school for the help he needs.  The law says the public schools must provide  your child with an education,  regardless of whatever accomodations need to be made in order for him to get that education.  Request in writing at the school, for your son to be M-Teamed (multidiscinplinary team) and that will initiate the proper emotional, academic, processing evaluations necessary so the teachers, counselors, etc. can see where he's at and what some of his deficits or problems areas are. He can then be properly placed in his school rather than just thrown in the regular classroom. These evals are very thorough normally and will not cost you anything if you go through the school.  He also sounds like an angry young man and anger comes from the frustration you indicate that he is feeling and displaying. Until the school gets the evals completed, talk to a school counselor and tell him/her what you've stated here.  She will be able to refer you to a psycholigist/therapist that will be of help to your entire family.  Violence in any form is not acceptable and needs to be addressed NOW.

In the future once things are settled and your son has received some help as well as you, you can perhaps consider medication if recommended by the psychologist or doctors.  Both the therapy and/or medications can make all your lives better.  Good luck and don't give up!

Answer 2

I can't recommend a tutor but try music he will respond to something he likes.

Answer 3

If you're residing in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada, you may want to visit The Learning Disabilities Association of BC-Vancouver (LDAV).  It is located at 3292 East Broadway, Vancouver and its website is www.ldav.ca.

Answer 4

your son may have a learning disability of some sort. i would advise you to bring him to a specialist to have him diagnosed first. because once he's diagnosed regarding his cognition, he will be advised to be taken care of occupational therapist, speech therapist etc., who will assist your son and give certain techniques how to handle these kind of people. it is also good that in school your son must be enrolled or must have a sped teacher

Answer 5

It sounds to me like there is an underlying problem other than the reading and writing. If I were you I would consider taking him to a doctor like a counselor or therapist.  They can help also family therapy can help with him feeling not loved.  In the mean time I think you should talk to the school about a special needs class and just keep reassuring him that you love him no matter what and that you'll always be there when he needs you.  I really hope this helps and good luck to you.

Answer 6

He needs a full educational and/or neurological evaluation. But do NOT get these thru the school. It's more trouble than its worth.

All children 'act out' with behaviors because this is how they deal with their problems, plus they are trying to communicate to others that he has problems.

Lots of children act this way and other ways because they do not know how to deal with things when they do not understand their school work.

Since you say he hasn't been in school for a year, I assume he is homeschooled?

When he was in school the school was suppose to help him with his problems thru the special ed program. Did they do this?

If they did or not, this is not YOUR fault. THis is the schools fault for not teaching him properly.

Most schools let the child fail, fall thru the cracks, etc and do not care to help them with their problems.

Please go to www.schwablearning.org and sign up for free to post on their parent to parent message board. You'll get lots of great help there!

Answer 7

Try contacting your local Regional Center, they can assist you and set you up with resources, such as an IEP advisor who will attend your son Individual Education Plan meetings, support groups, and seminars to teach you how to help your son.

Also Parents Helping Parents is another greater resource. Other parents are the best way to find out what help there is in your area.

Both organizations provide activities for the whole family, even your other children that may not have special needs.

There is help out there but it can be a challenge to find it.

Hang in there, I know it is depressing and often painful but you are your son's best advocate. No one will fight for a child like their parent.  I hope this helps.

Answer 8

If you are in the USA, you can have him tested, and placed into a special education program, where he can get specific help for his individual challenges.  The Individualized Education Program would be totally customized to his unique learning style and needs.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

there are special schools in our country for such children, plz contact Director of Public Education (special for Children with brain disorders).

Answer 11

Sorry dear but don't loose hope. Let the teacher give most of his/ her attention on your son.

you can make an increment in the payment where by that money will take the teacher's mind to the son.

ask the teacher kindly to make the son sit infront always and if possible let the son havea permanent sit and no one else should take it.

secondary try to discuss with the son telling him of the prosperous people a nd try giving him some work to do followed by a prize in case he does make it.

and so promise him of the best in case he passes excellently.

Answer 12

a tutor is the best thing and don't blame yourself so much just get him some friends make him feel like his problem isn't there  p.s. check out the tutors because a lot are just in it for the money they don't care about your child's well-being and you cant have that

Answer 13

sorry but i dont know good luck though dont give up u never know maybe a miracle will come

Answer 14

I think u should visit a counsellor and test his Iq then u will be sure of his mental condition there they would also help with necessary remedies or atleast direct u ,/ guide how to procced with the matter. Its a matter not to worry off, but to put him in an envioronment so that he will help himself and also others too.