Need advise on mother n law?

Question

ok my mother n law lives with me and my husband and kids but the problem is every time something dont go her way she euns to him and gets me and him into it and I try talking to him but thats his mom he dont see her in any kind of wrong what should I do it'slike she strives to see me mess up reather it be me not filling my sons cup all the way or any thing

Answer 1

Be honest with her tell her how you feel not him, its got nothing to do with your husband and he should support you on that, if you have a problem with his mum you sort it and vice verse.Don't buy into her c"^p she gets off on watching you two argue don't give her the satisfaction anymore. talk to him privately and out of ear shout of her. talk to her things might improve once you take a stance she'll respect you. and you her?? good luck

Answer 2

ok well first if shes livin with u she needs to know the rules and the bonderies, u ur husband and her all need to sit down and lay down the laws and the rules perhaps even suggest her moving out

Answer 3

First of all, your mother-in-law needs to get out of your business and she needs to respect you as her daughter-in-law. Yes, she will always be his mother but you are his wife now and she needs to respect that and he needs to be a man and tell her to back off. I hate to say this, but as long as she is living in your house there will continue to be chaos.  

Answer 4

Have you tried talking to your husband before there are problems with your MIL?  If you're going to him after she does all the time then you're loosing the race.  I'm not saying go to him with tales about her because that will just make him more defensive.  But you two should be building a solid relationship with good communication if you want the marriage to work at all.  You need to be working on that first.  Then try talking to him about how you each thing general issues should be addressed.  Once you're both on the same page you'll know how he thinks about things and you'll be better able to make decisions TOGETHER on how to deal with his mom.  But none of this is going to happen overnight.