Need an adult woman's point of view on this?

Question

my ex gf had been txting me almost a half year after we were together. anytime she messages me it's about something awful goin on, i felt it was to get sympothy from me. so finally i told her a few days ago if she wanted to be friends with me to act like it and not only contact me when horrible c**p is going on.i added that if she wanted to talk with me and be friends she should use the phone and call rather than randomly txting me.,do that or just lose my number. Now after all of this she gave me a guilt trip bout me not being a real friend etc etc...so here I am confused if I did the right thing and is there anything I should do or just leave it be. This girl was the one that ended the relationship so i honestly am conflicted with even the messaging now. one of the bad things going on with her is that her mom has cancer. when she told me that in a txt i called her and said was sorry to hear that, so i'm not a complete a***e.But even before she let me know that I felt she was just using me to get sympothy for any problem in her life. I have no clue what to think or how to proceed. Any advice would be great on this. Maybe someone could tell me how they would handle this or if they had a similiar experience with an ex that would help a lot.

Answer 1

you are in the right here, she cant only want you as a friend when things aren't going well for her and, if she cant pick up the phone then she's not much of a friend is she. Stand your ground, she'll either leave you alone or get the message and be a proper friend.

Answer 2

Although I do think that you should be there for your friends when they need you, I think you've done the right thing because she seems to only be your friend when it suits her. Your right - if she wants to be your friend and get support from you, she should act like your friend. A friendship should be give and take....not take, take, take on her part.