Need freedom from parents help?

Question

Okay guys I really need help on this

I’m moving to a really, really small city in Ireland, my hometown. My entire family lives there. My parents and I are planning on living in my grandma’s house till we find a place in Dublin. I am 15 and pretty much listen to what my parents say…most of the time.

I don’t want to move I love florida and hate my hometown, it’s cold and wet and small and boring, but my mom is so looking forward to it. Showing me all the wonderful places around the city she says, I personally just want to stay home and email my friends, but don’t want to hurt her feelings

Now the problem; My parents are putting me on complete lockdown when I move. I mean I’m not allowed to go out, I get my nose pireced, can’t dye my hair black, can’t get a job, can’t skateboard, can’t go anywhere without mommy and daddy =\. They’d let me go out with friends but I don’t have friends in my hometown and my parent’s want me to go to school in Dublin so I won’t make friends. Also we don’t know how long we’re staying in my hometown. So I have NO FREEDOM when I move. How do I convinse my parents to give me at least a little freedom.

Answer 1

If you do not have a working, open relationship with your parents, then you are SOL.  The next 3 years could be very miserable ones for you unless you begin to develop better communication with your parents.

You need to be listening all the time, not "most of the time" but you do not need to agree with their position.

At 15 years old, you are a young adult, not a child.  If your parents are treating you like a child they must have their reasons and you need to find out what these are.  Only then can you begin to express yourself and have them listen to you.

If their do not listen to what you are saying and you feel like a prisoner, then act like one.  Other than that you need to learn what they are thinking and feeling so you can best get your own points across.  Just understand that some parents are inflexible and will not change their minds or hearts.  If this is the case, nothing you can do will help.