Need help,what should i do?

Question

I was starting to see someone that I really care about, but my family really disapproves, to the point where they say that they'll start calling the cops, or that they'll send me to go live with my dad who lives up north, all this happened when all we were doing was talking in the front yard and nothing else, there had been a few times when I wanted to call this person just to see how they're doing, or even calling but I just hang up, I get nervous, they even got to the point where they changed the number of my cell phone without my permission. What should I do? this happened before but not to this extent, before they threatened to disown me, but this time there was alot of yelling, and threats.

Answer 1

You need to talk to them and tell them that you care about this guy and then if they dont understand then ask them why they are acking like this and why do they think that they can treat you this way.  

Answer 2

This is probably not what you're going to want to hear, but the best thing would probably be to break it off.  I've been there and I didn't end up with that person in the long run.  All it did was drive a huge wedge between me and my family.  It's going on 6 years, I've married and had a baby since then, but I still hear about it.  So, I know it sucks because you care for them, but the sooner you move on the better.  And any time the cops start getting called in that is never good.  Please just think this out logically, it was harder for me to see when I was younger, but your parents are you parents and they really are just trying to do what is best for you.  That all happened with me when I was 18 (my sr. year of high school) I'm 24 now, so I'm still young enough to remember what that is like, but I feel I'm old enough to share a little wisdom with you.  Obviously this is not a good situation for you, I think you need to move on from that relationship, you never know what you could be missing while you're wrapped up in that unnecessary drama.

Answer 3

well in this situati0on u need to know what ur doing..and im sorry to say it but it seems like u have to choose..  if the person is jst a frein maybe u should stop meeting them for a certain amount of time untill things get cooled down at home.. if u do happen to do this u need to explain the situation to the person otherwise they'll get it wrong.. if the person is some1 who is more then just a frein u should still explain it to them and meet them not so very often but every once in a while..

i wish u luck..

peace out..x*x

Answer 4

wait, I'm confused who changed ur #

and why don't they like the person ur seeing?

Answer 5

actually  i can relate with you a lot, it also happened to me and my family. everyday being scolded and everything, no fone, can't even contact my close galfriends, i felt alone back then. your life will depend on ur decisions, if you think you are being controlled by your parents try telling them that you have life of your own and you have knowledge of you are doing. As for me, i followed my parents, because when they talked to me they really have good reasons of not seeing that person, but from time to time, not often, i send messages to that person to still continue our friendship. (friendship is the greatest investment)

Answer 6

what did this person do to make your family's disapproval of them so high is something that you need to think about. if they dislike this person just due to looks, then they are being judgmental and i don't feel that would be right, but there has got to be a reason why your family feels that this person isn't right for you..... due to age or reputation. you need to think about the reasons that your family has done the things they have done. i really doubt that you don't know why.  

Answer 7

Do it secretly, you must have one ,messed up family

Answer 8

Well if you are underage, then you need to listen to your parents.