Need help! Mom won't help me! 10 points for best answer!?

Question

My periods are unbearable. Whenever I get it, I can't function right. I get really painful cramps, muscle aches in my legs, sometimes I get a fever and end up getting sick, my appetite decreases, I get really tired and weak. Sometimes I have to stay home from school because it's so bad. And I can't swallow my Midol pills because I get nausea and end up gagging and spitting the pills out. And it's because I'm nauseaus, not because I'm incapable of swallowing pills, because I'm not. The last time I got my period I blurted out, 'I wish I was on birth control.' Unfortunatley, whenever my mom thinks of bc, she thinks of s*x. And even though she knows that I don't have a boyfriend and I'm not sexually active, she won't let me go on it! I don't know what to do anymore and the pain is just sooo bad. I'm really small. I'm 16 and am only 4'9 so that could be my problem but everything hurts so bad and my mom won't help me! What do I do?

Answer 1

you should eat food while taking the midol pill.

read the back....it says to eat while taking the pain if you get stomach problems. so yea

sorry charlie.

Answer 2

Your 16, you can go to the doctors and get pills and your mum cant have a say in it

Answer 3

Get to a doctor. I've never heard of or experienced pains as bad as you've just descibed. I think you should try to get yourself to a doctor even if your mom won't take you. The doc can prescibe you some meds that  you take when you're not on your period. I would definitely try to get any type or birth control if i was you. Go to a family member besides your mom and tell them about this. I would not put up with that kind of physical torture.  

Answer 4

There is a place called planned parenthood, you can go completely private, and you don't need your parents permission. They are really cheap, even free bc. I know since your mom won't talk about it, or probably even take you to the OBGYN, then you need to be proactive and do something because then the pain won't just go away. Skipping school for a week at a time is not good. Talk to the OBGYN, and maybe you can get some information to talk to your mom about, pamphlets, brochures, they offer many many things!

Answer 5

you should sit down and have a chat with her and make sure that she knows its not for s*x its so that you can function... ask your doctor if they think that this will help or not  

Answer 6

I would go to a gynecologist first. I've never had severe pain from it but I know several people who used to and I remember once hearing that dairy can help. I'm not sure if that's true but you can try it. If you can't swallow the pills maybe you could crush them up and put them in a drink or pudding or something that you could swallow easier if you were nauseous. Maybe ask your mother if you could go to the doctor for it or just go to the gynecologist with a friend or something. Everyone I know who experienced what you're going through started using birth control and it helped. In the meantime I guess you could try to dairy thing.

Answer 7

i suggest make an appt with your gyn and talk to him/her about your symptoms and birth control may be the best option and as far as your mom she needs to relax and stop being so uptight, its like she wants to see you suffer with your period. maybe talk to your dad and get him to convince your mom. do your research on your birth control and show him what it would be used for and how it would help you out. let them know your not going around having s*x and that this would be important for you.  it might be embaressing to talk to your dad but im sure he sees you in pain too. if not go to an aunt and talk to her maybe she can take you the drs.

Answer 8

this exact thing happened to me. my period was always so terrible and my mom absolutely refused to let me get on birth control and i had no way of going to the doctor without her. i suggest asking your dad for help if hes around. but what doesnt make sense to me is why do our moms want us to suffer? it doesnt make any sense!! moms should want whats best for their kids, and besides even if you were sexually active she should want you to be on birth control to be protected. ugh i just don't understand moms sometimes. my best advice is to do what i did. drive yourself on over to the nearest Planned Parenthood clinic. It's actually cheaper to go and get a prescription there than it is for me to go to the doctor. tell them all about your problem and they'll set you up with a good birth control for you. i personally take Seasonale. it's the pill that comes in a 3 month pack and you only get your period every 3 months!!! my cramps have gone away completely and when i do get my period it's only for abour 3-5 days and its really light!  i love it, you should check it out, its great :D

if you have any more questions on seasonale or just wanna talk about it my email is [e-mail]

good luck!    

Answer 9

Call your family doctor or OBGYN and have the Dr call your mom, explaining that you don't have to hump 24/7 to need BC. He'll be more than glad to sell an honest answer (and make some money) from your insensible mother who apparently wants you to suffer.

Answer 10

First to swallow your Midol, take a bite of banana (or something of the same consistency.)  Chew good then put the pill in the middle and swallow.  That's what I do when nauseated and it works well.  I agree with you about the BC pills. I would take your mom to the doctor with you and discuss your symptoms and the benefits of BC pills with your mom and doctor at the same time.  Parents are tricky and sometimes will only listen to other adults.  Also if this doesn't work I had girlfriends when I was in high school who would go to the health department and get birth control pills because they had mom's like you do (totally against them).  Its against the law for the health dept. to tell anyone about you.  So your mom won't find out.  I really don't support hiding things from your mom but when your completely honest with her and she still refuses to help you it seems like your on your own.  Good luck!

Answer 11

you have to actually see a doctor because one of my friends is like that. i think there's a name for it but i cant remember what it was. but my friend, she's 4'11 and shes 15 and at school she nearly passed out from being tired and weak. she missed school a couple days every month from her period being to hard for her to handle. yeah her mom wouldnt let he take birth control either so she when she went to the doctors she told the nurse and they told her that she might need prescriptioned medication or birth control, which ever she wanted more.  i really think you should see the doctors for it because it could possible get worse, cause my friend let it go for a long time and it just got worse and the pills she takes make her  feel a lot better. maybe if your mom actually hears it from the doctors then she'll let you go on whatever pill you want and need to feel better.  

Answer 12

sounds like you have endometriosis and the only remedy would be for your doc to give you birth control pills...your mom is making you live with unbearable pain and that's not right !  She needs to trust you !  

Answer 13

well of course your mom is going to freak as soon as she hears birth control come out of her daughters mouth...BC wont solve everything and plus doc's only prescribe it to certain people when using it for med purposes...you can always ask your mom to take you to your doc's to see what they can do for you...i mean she has to know how horrible you feel...as a last resort you can always go to planned parenthood and tell them that you want to get on BC..they'll keep it confidential and it's FREE...good luck.

Answer 14

Having periods this bad is not normal. The pill may not be the answer. You really need to go to a doctor, either your current on or a ob/gyn. To get a name of one or two doctors, you can ask your school nurse or a school counselor. They are both trained to help you get some help.

The pill may help but you need to make sure that it is just your period that is causing the problem. It can be caused by many other things. I don't want to scare you but there could be many other things causing the pain. You might have a problem with your fallopian tubes, your uterus, even your colon. You can not know until you go to a doctor.

Your mom is most likely worried that you are having s*x. You can go to the doctor by yourself and they are required to keep your history private. At some point you should talk to your mom about your sexual activity. Tell the truth, let her know what choices you have made and why. This will ease her mind. Depending on what your current relationship is with your mom can be a factor on her response.

Good luck!

Answer 15

hey girl I had the SAME problem when I was your age.... the only thing you can do... is have your make take you to the doctor... sometimes there is a physical reason for it. like something wrong.... but for pain really the only thing you can do is take a hot shower or bath and wrap a heating pad on your tummy.... also I found out that if I laid on a cool tile floor like the bathroom or kitchen  it would lower my body temp which would lower my pain level.... Im one of those people that when I am in pain i get a fever.... and the hotter I get the worse the pain gets and visa versa... so I lay on the tile floor or in the empty bath tub....    

Hope this helps hun !  I remember how horrible it was... I used to shake and pass out too plus all the things you listed....  

Answer 16

I would ask to talk to your doctor. They might have another option for you and if they don't they can't tell you mom if you do deside to get on Birth control.

Answer 17

hey dont freak out ill help u my girl friend used to go through the same exact thing, its your lack of water, when its around that time drink alot of water just for that week. at least 30 oz, but you have to drink water every day that your on it. periods take a lot of water out of you. good luck i hope i helped

Answer 18

i know this isn't the best anwser, but go ask

a school nurse or your doctor. cause i was

gonna say try some midol, but then you said

that you just throw it up.

Answer 19

Have you considered changing your form of feminine care? If you switch to a menstrual cup and/or cloth pads there is anecdotal evidence that is shortens the flow, length, and cramps of your period. I ordered a lunette menstrual cup today and am hoping for the best. Birth control can be really bad for you. (Seasonal or whatever its called. See this link http://www.miacup.co.za/talk/index.php?s... . You could be experiencing TSS if your using tampons. (That doesn't seem normal to me.) TSS isn't as rare as you think. http://www.center4research.org/wmnshlth/...

"the drop in the total number of cases is only apparent when a "strict-case" definition of TSS is used; the actual number of "clinical cases" has not really changed" Also check out:

http://maloney.house.gov/index.php?optio...

http://maloney.house.gov/index.php?optio...

Menstrual cups are better for you...give them a try! If you live in the US you can get a diva cup in stores. If you live in the UK you can get a mooncup UK.

http://community.livejournal.com/cloth_p...

http://community.livejournal.com/menstru...

www.ecomenses.com

Answer 20

Ask your mother once again if she can take you to a doctor or otherwise help you in someway to ease the pain you are going through.If she does take you to a doctor let her be in the room with you and the doctor so he or she can reassure her that birth control may be the best option for you and if you tell the doctor in front of your mother that you are not sexually active then maybe that will put your Mom at ease about the whole birth control is for when you are sexually active. When in actuallity alot of younge women are on it to regulate there cycle and ease painfull periods. When you know you are about to start take the Midol the day before that way you are not nausea.  

Answer 21

I've been in your place before- Really horrible and unbearable menstrual periods. So much that I tend to pass out, or would stay home from classes to sleep the pain off.

This is really serious and I think you should sit down with your mom and convince her about how serious/painful periods are to you. Or, you can go to your doctor and tell him/her about your periods and ask for the doctor to talk to your mom. That's how my mom gave into letting me on the birth control pill- by having the doctor tell her how serious my periods were. Then the doctor suggested to my mom to put me on the bc pill since it reduces all the pain and such.

But for now, since your mom isn't doing much, all you can do is hopefully sleep the pain off or just take it easy when you're at school.

I hope all goes well!

Answer 22

Cramps can be eased by a warm towel on your stomach (Put a towel in the dryer for a little bit and then put it on your stomach) or a heating pad. Surprisingly, exercising helps them too. try drinking some sprite for the nausea. If you want to go take a nap, turn off all of the lights and any outside lights that may seep in your window need to be covered as well. This will help with the headache. Don't get on the computer or watch tv because that will make the headache worse.

If you can, you should really go to your doctor. He/She can help you with this, without putting you on birth control.  

Answer 23

Talk to your doctor. They can help you by making sure that it's only your period causing the problems, and not anything more serious. Or maybe there's something else that can help you that your mother would be more willing to let you take. Either way, a doctor would be able to help you much more then anyone on here.

Answer 24

quit saying you want birth control, and your height has nothing to do with it. talk it out with your mom and ask if you can see a gyno, she might get a better picture of what you are asking. good luck!

Answer 25

talk to an aunt.. or a family frined about grtitng BC  and  mabeyyou could hide it form your mother.