Need help dealing w/ a seriously two-faced person?

Question

i'm planning to end my friendship with my "best friend" of two years. i'm going into grade 11, she into grade 12. we both go to the same super small school where everyone knows each other. problem is, she is very two-faced. she acts so sweet and nice around everyone but me and since i am her closest friend, i always see her nasty side where she puts-down everyone, only cares about herself, trys to manipulate people. it's awful. should i just keep away from her and disregard what other people say (they will go on about how i could hurt such a lovely girl) what should i do?

Answer 1

Dont just sit her down and say "i dont want to be your friend anymore" that will only cause drama. if you really feel its best to stop being friends dont tell her that. Just slowly start to pull away from her and not hangout with her as much.

Possibly she only tells you mean things about other people because she feels very secure with her and she probably feels like she can trust you and you wont ever leave her

Answer 2

if you feel that way about someone thats supposed to be your BFF then they probably arent. I wouldnt ever think my BFF was a bad person even if she did those things, and if you feel that way. You should end your friendship.

Answer 3

Tell her how u see her. Tell her that she needs to stop being such a person and if she decides to argue with u its over. If you dont like her ways and i know u dont want to end up like her, then u should cut it off.

Answer 4

In regards to that, "they" will wonder why you aren't they're friend and they will have questions that you don't wanna answer rite? " i think ur 2faced" wont go over 2 well, and since its a small school no time to make enemies, maybe just limit the time you spend with them and maybe they will find new friends on there own, however then you'll be the targeted source of the trash talking, so that's complicated, do pros and cons for this friendship and I'm sure u can come to your own conclusion, I myself would just limit the time spent and see what happens there  

Answer 5

You're a great friend, I can tell. You want to see her improve herself. You care about her.

Have you tried talking to her about this? Let her know that it upsets you that she talked badly about people behind their backs. Tell her that it's not nice, and that you'd feel terrible if anyone talked about her that way behind HER back. Everyone deserves a second chance. Try talking things out. She might surprise you.

If that fails, just move on. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone. Just do what you have to do.

Answer 6

i say keep ur distance what she does to other she is more likely doing the same with u... people like these u cant trust.. its best u find  new friends or hobbies to keep u occupied and away from her.. good luck..

Answer 7

Tell her exactly what you thought of her as you have told us.

And block her from IM, etc.

See how easy?  

Answer 8

this happened to me, i ended my friendship with a girl who was very two faced and of course rumours arose but most people dont really care for rumours and the others who help spread them are idiots, you know your true friends just stick with them [not the two faced "best friend' or any other rumour/two faced people.]

Answer 9

Just leave her alone. It's lame for people to want to gossip about that stuff. Either way, it'll blow over.

Answer 10

Ehh all people can be like that just some more then others. If you really don't want to be friends with her anymore tell her how you feel and if she doesn't change, well its not like you cant make new friends. Most of my friends do it and i will admit i do it too, not so much though i just go with the flow and keep out of the big S**t talk.

Answer 11

yikes.

very passive agressive.

if this friend is dear to you,you should talk to her,maybe she doesn't realize how awful she is being.

if you don't feel this will change after trying to save the friendship..then just leave.

it's not good to be around people who act so differently from one minute to another.

it really messes with your mind.

plus,it's really not good that she saves the bad stuff for her close friends.

talk to her,try and help her change.

if you find this isn't going to happen...

don't let yourself stay in this mind bending friendship.

it's not fair to you to withstand all of her moodieness.

hope i helped.

good luck!

xoxo~

<3 feriell

Answer 12

ugg hate 2 faced people!

well you're best bet would be to tell her how you feel?

problem is she may not take it very well...

highschool drama always sucks i tend to end it A LOT!

i usually fight but thats not the best way to resolve things.

just tell her how you feel see how she takes it...

good luck!

Answer 13

just ignore her if you dont like her just say hello and keep your distance and if anyone asks say you dont know her as well as me and leave it at that because its the truth and in time they will forget and move onto other things.

Answer 14

You just say "Yes she is really lovely but I need a best friend who is in my grade."  Then go find one or just have a lot of good friends and worry about a best friend later in life.