Need help from hopefully attorney.?

Question

Since adoption laws vary from state to state plz only someone with Indiana background please answer. My son was unjustly adopted out. When he turns 18 and comes home. will he still on paper anyway be concidered the adopted families son? or will it revert back to the way it should be. If he's still not concidered my legal son. how would i get the adopted family idiots removed as his parents

Answer 1

If the adoption was finalized, then he is legally, morally, and in every way their son.  Turning 18 changes nothing.  He is always their son unless he wants it otherwise.

Since this is the case like it or not, why not take all that energy and focus on the fact that he is presumably being loved, cared for and educated by his parents, the only parents he knows.

To undermine that, would be to destroy his stability, question his life, and undercut his self-esteem.

Think about it.....a real father wants their child to be loved, cherished, taken care of.  He is.  You should be glad of that -- no matter how it got started.  It is what it is now.

And calling his parents idiots does not honor him.

Answer 2

It sounds as if your child was removed from you and your wife by the state for some reason?  

ETA:  Yes, your child was.  I found out from one of your previous posts.

The best thing you can do for your son at this time is give him love and support when there is any contact.  Leave all opinions and thoughts about the adoptive parents to yourself.  Your comments about his parents will create a for them will only make it harder for them to discipline him when needed and bond with him as they should.  This not only hurts his parents, but it damages him as well.

I suggest counseling for you and your wife.  It sounds as if the two of you would benefit from having a certified counselor to talk with about this issue.

Answer 3

I think there is a movement of adopting back.

Answer 4

Once he turns 18 there are 2 different things you can do/try.  You can adopt him back or he could have his adoption dissolved.  It is more difficult, time consuming, and costly to get an adoption dissolved even if the child in question would perfer it this way.

Answer 5

You will need to adopt him back. Once he is an adult you can do so as long as he consents.

ETA: I didn't read the other responses and someone beat me to the link :)