Need help making friends!?

Question

In a general sense, what's the best way to approach a group of people you want to make friends with?

I find that anything I say would just get an awkward silence and they'll just think I'm weird. So usually I just wait for someone to approach me and make friends that way. The problem is that there's a much higher chance that no one will approach me or the conversation will be dull/quick/awkward.

Am I over thinking this? Any help is appreciated!

I'm tired of not having many friends! You can say that I'm shy, but definitely not as much as I used to be. I used to be very insecure and just dread the thought of someone speaking to me, but not anymore.

The biggest problem I have now is that I don't have much to say. I'm very quiet and it takes a while for me to warm up to people and be more relaxed.

Answer 1

okayyy. i used to be like u, shy and not having many friends but i changed that. so heres some advice: do ur friends have a lot of friends???? well if they do talk to them. if ur friends like them im sure it wont be hard for u to like them too. keep in mind that some people arent as bad as people judge them btw. if u know someone is in the same situation like looks kinda quiet and shy, then talk to that person. if u make sarcastic remarks(like i do) or always come up with funny jokes at random times when someone is speaking. then say it to someone when it crosses ur mind. most of my friendships started out from all the sarcastic comments i made about lectures our teachers gave us. lol.  good luck!!!

Answer 2

dude i had the same problem but heres what you have to do if theres ppl you want to hang with just go up to them introduce yourself and be like hey i was wondering if i could hang with you guys and then be like i just like meeting new ppl and having lots of friends and then say it was great talkin to ya hope we can be friends soon.

Answer 3

i agree- you walk into a convo rite, and everyone stops, looks at you and goes, "uh, what the?!"

well- here's some tips to quickly restart the conversation: the faster you do it, the less awkward it is.

1. laugh- "haha- everyone looked at me at the same time- you're all like: (imitate by googling eyes and staring at everyone in the circle) hahaha! i know, i totally killed the conversation... it's funny- everytime i talk to someone i seem to kill the conversatiion- does that happen to you too? (pause, see if they'll speak up, if not, continue) anyway.. i find it really weird, but it's quite funny actually... hahahahaaa! (somehow link this onto your past experiences of awkard situations; because thenyou'll be talking about things you know, and words will come out easier)...(follow this with something random e.g.) i think i laugh too much! hahahahahaaa!! (by then the people should be laughing and talking... if not, they are weird and have no sense of humour. if so, move on, and excuse yourself by something like this: if you're at a party or something similar) hey i'm gonna get some food- anyone coming? (you'll see who's interested in you if they decide to follow you to get some food ta-da! your new friend! if no one follows, don't fret, find another circle and just say:) well bye then- nice meeting you guys (then walk off)"

good luck- have some fun

Answer 4

I'm kinda like that, as i usually say the wrong thing and ppl just stare. Usually in these moments, say something that can break the ice, like, "ok, you guys can stop staring now...what did i say??" (just an example). If you want to be friends, just go up to them and say hi, introduce yourself and ask them something. Simple questions usually work best. Don't go up with a joke or catchy line because if they don't get it, they'll stare at you. Just be yourself and be natural. You've nothing to lose by being friendly!

Answer 5

when you have something to say...it'll come to you.  is everyone around you thinking exactly as you?  maybe.  maybe not.  if you feel like saying something, use your words.  :)    when my sons started kindergarten i told him all he has to say is hi, i'm 'name'.  what's yours?  someone who is open to talk will. others wont.  if you know someone's name, you can say hi to them the next day.  more conversation can pick up as you progress to 1st and second grades. hehe