Need help on how to talk in conversations?

Question

i'm not really shy, i'm just quiet.. (i think a lot)

Or you can say i'm more of a person that shows action instead of talking.

i try to talk in a conversations but i cant seem to be social around people..(i usually just agree, laugh, & smile a lot)

i really hate my personality. i wanna be more outgoing. =(

i need help how to stay in a conversation.. or to talk more. pleasee, i'm dieing here!! D':

i really need helpp! thankks<3!

Answer 1

wow--i feel like you&#039;re talking about me here. i&#039;m the exact same way!

i sometimes have to force myself to pay attention to the conversation and say something back. otherwise people will just think i&#039;m a jerk that doesn&#039;t want to talk to them.

but all i can say to help you is to just listen to the person talking so that you can find something--even if it&#039;s a little thing to talk about

Answer 2

In order to be one of those people who finds conversation easy and natural, you really have to become a more trusting person, and trust is a combination of the boldness to rush in, the confidence in one&#039;s abilities to get out alive, and a willingness to get hurt in order to gain a greater benefit in the long run. If you stay shy, hide and cry all the time your life with be c**p. It behooves you to force yourself, learn to get in there and fight, roll with the punches, and even if you come out scratched and bruised by making mistakes or encountering rude people who put you down, in the end you&#039;ll have learned a lot and lived a lot.

Answer 3

relate to the subject

Answer 4

I would advice you to observe people who carry a conversation well and look at the questions they ask and how they carry on a converstion  and immitate that pattern. I dont mean like copy word for word what they say or become them, but look at HOW they relay information and copy that.

In to carry on a conversation you have to have something worthwhile, or you have to feel like what you are saying are important.

You have to also learn to love your personality, some time that might mean broadening your personality. So read more things of local interest, pick up new hobbies, meet new people. As you do this you begin to come out of your shell, and you will want to speak to people about yourself or you will have more in common with them.

Answer 5

Play the &#039;hostess&#039; wherever you are- ask people about themselves, be supportive, encourage them to be the focus of attention. OK, you are likely to hear lots of drivel from vacuous personalities, tho there&#039;s a good chance you&#039;ll strike &#039;gold&#039; in truly engaging talk.

To be Miss Popular, never discuss what you think, but get other&#039;s opinion- always!  People will flock to you, search you out in a crowd- believe it!

Answer 6

If you think a lot, you may be too intelligent to take part in the blather.

Nevertheless, the best way to socialize and get involved in a conversation is to actually have something to say, and if you do, try to make it relevant, witty or both.  Realize that you are not generally speaking, intellectually inferior to most people that surround you, and therefore, you can contribute with an interesting remark or observation.

As with everything, it takes practice, but, if you feel you are in dire social privation, it&#039;s well worth doing.  You are more fascinating than you give yourself credit for, most of us are. Good luck.