Need help on what to do . thinking of adoption?

Question

ive looked into foster care but it can get expensive and i only want one and dont want to lose it i want one forever

Answer 1

OK - you do know that adopting is NOT the same as having a bio child - don't you??

An adoptee comes with a bio blueprint from his/her bio parents - and a history before they come to the adoptive parents.

They are NOT a blank slate.

They are NOT going to be just only yours.

Adoptees need to know ALL their families - for better well being - both emotionally and psychologically.

Adoptees don't need insecure parents that can't share their love. (they didn't ask to be adopted - those are adult decisions)

Very few women actually give their babies away willingly.

And you wouldn't really want to seperate a mother and child - if it really didn't NEED to happen - would you?? I mean - adoption is meant to be in the best interests of the child - finding a home for a child that really needs a home.

Not about finding a baby for you because you are looking after your needs first.

Adoption from foster care actually costs next to nothing.

Those are the children where parental rights have already been relinquished.

THOSE are the kids that a desperate for a loving home.

Or are you really looking at adoption only for your own needs and desires??

Answer 2

I have the utmost respect for individuals who adopt as I am an adoptee and have the greatest adoptive family on this planet. For one to open their home for a child with love and open arms tugs my heart.

My parents are foster parents and have been for 25 years now. When I came into their care from the moment they met me everyone said in the family that I was a keeper, I am.

Here though where I live if a foster parent adopts them the infant or child is then their full responsibility. Although infants and children who are adopted that are part aboriginal (even if you are one percent aboriginal you are considered aborginal as you are more benefits). Sometimes their are funding and programs the adoptive parent are apply for if they have adopted an aboriginal child.

Best of luck to you and your husband.  

Answer 3

I have Know Idea but you have a really big heart God well bless you with a baby that need you (or child) look on line typ in adoptions in what ever state your in be a blessing to someone here in the states please  

Answer 4

If the problem is with your ovaries why don't you use a egg donor?

Answer 5

infertility treatment  

Answer 6

well my mom wanted more kids after my brother and i, so she did foster care for this company called mentor, they have medically complex childern and she adopted 2 of which you would never think had issues when they were born and she got paid to stay home with them and take them to doctors and have the workers come visit. After she adopted them she gets a monthly paycheck from the government. hope this helps good luck.

Answer 7

Thousands of children are languishing in the foster care system as we speak.

Can you love one of them?

Answer 8

Be sure to educate yourself about adoption.  Here are some reading suggestions for you:

* "Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self" by Brodzinsky, Schecter, and Henig

* "Journey of the Adopted Self" by Betty Jean Lifton

* "The Primal Wound" by Nancy Verrier