Need help or advice with the decision of my son and school please!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Question

my son is 6years old and is about to be 7years old and going to be in kindergarden, we are going to be moving so i called the school that he would be attending and they had told me that he will automatically be put in 1st grade but knowing that my son has not been in kindergarden yet what shall i do. The school that he is leaving from said it would be in his best interest that he would be better off being held back in pre k me saying yes because i know for a fact that he was having problems with everything i thought it was a good idea but now knowing that i have made him stay back in that grade i have hurt him a great deal so can someone please tell me what would be the best option, or is there a type of school that can help my son get caught up and get him in the correct grade that he needs to be in

Answer 1

If your son is mature enough (socially & academically), you can put him in Gr1 directly. And to help him cope up with the gr1 lessons, give him private tuition at home for his school important subjects such as math, language, writing skills.

But if your son is considered young (in term of age), I think it's better for him to be put in Kindy for a year, for adaptation. So he will be given more time to know more what school is. For me, it doesn't matter about the age, as long as he really is ready for school & have confident of himself is more important, for the long term. Hope can decide the best for your son. God bless.

Answer 2

I work in a school district in Texas and see this happen alot.

You are going to have to push a little but in the end, it was a good idea to hold him back if he wasnt ready.  It could destroy his love for learning to put him in a situation he isnt ready for.

Both of my boys went to kinder at 6 (almost 7). In TX kinder is not required so they can push you around a but.  First, try having a sit down meeting with the principal and counselor.  Have any information on the previous schools decision ready to share.  If that gets you no where, go straight to the school district person responsible for student affairs or academic affairs. Go all the way to the Superientendent if you need to.  

Stand firm on what you know is best for your child.  Contrary to what they may think (and tell you) YOU- not the school- are the experrt on what is best for your child. No one know his history better than you.  Unfortunately, some people have to fight a bit harder to even the playing field for their kids.

Keep up the good fight!

Answer 3

Do you have a Silvan learning center or something like that near you?  They may be able to help your son catch up.  If not, then his new first grade teacher should be willing to spend extra time with him if he needs it.  Just have a talk with the teacher at the beginning of the school year and explain the situation and your concerns.  I personally think it would be best for your son to jump into first grade rather than going to kindergarten, because if he starts out behind and never catches up, he will always be the oldest in his grade, which may bother him as he gets older.  I don't think the workload will be too tough for your son, and you can always ask the teacher for extra help if he starts falling behind.

Answer 4

contact the school district before moving so you have all of the info you need.  consider a private or charter school.

Answer 5

i would opt for Kindergarten-unless he is truly ready fro 1st grade-

kindergarten nowadays is much more than socail skills--they start academics--todays kindergartener is like a 1st grader 20 years ago....

if you don't--he'd be skipping a grade--and if he has special needs to begin with-it can just make them worse

Answer 6

WHOA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are in a HUGE problem I would say wait to move then move after he completes Kindergarten.

Answer 7

I worked as a special education teacher for five years, and have seen everything from students who are with their same-age peers, but very behind academically to students who are way older than their peers because they were held back.  I suggest that you let him stay in the first grade like the school wants to do, but get ready to dig in and help him.  This is going to be a tough year for him, and you have to make it your job to teach him the basic skills that he missed.  With your help, every night, he will make it through this.  Ask the first grade teacher for materials to catch him up, and do this as "homework" with him every night.  He can be successful with your help.  Feel free to email me for help.  [e-mail]